DS9 (Yr 5) Homework - tears and tantrums!

[pinkmamma]

DS gets around 30/40 mins of homework per night - I think its a bit steep but thats the way it is at his school. So, he rushes it, makes loads of mistakes, so he has to keep going back and doing corrections.... when I point out mistakes (and they are simple mistakes that I know full well that he knows) he cries, and throws his toys out the pram... which means extremely stressed me... prolonged homework.. and tired and upset DS....

Anyone finding the same or any advice?

[ThePosieParker]

What does he do after hw?

[pinkmamma]

Today he played chess on computer and went on trampoline....

[Doodlez]

My DS was yr 5 last year and we had similar.

I had to learn a lesson my self...let him cock it up!

Don't check it - just tell him to go and do it, help if he asks for help but otherwise, leave him to it. Just a few rollickings for crap work later from his teacher and hey presto, DS spent more time and care with it and still got it done quicker than when he rushed it and I hung over him!

Hope my experience helps you!

[pinkmamma]

Hi Doodlez.... he actually said to me today you shouldn't be telling me.. the teachers should... but I know he is just being damn lazy!!

Think I will go and speak to his teacher and see what she thinks - I would love to just leave him get on with it instead!!

[aries12]

Have a word with the teacher, let him/her know that you are quite happy if your Ds has to repeat the work if it is careless. (assuming you are!). This will save you the stress of making him do it properly. If your Ds knows that both yourself and the teacher will do the same..he will learn quickly.

[AChickenCalledKorma]

Is the 30/40 minutes a night the amount of time the school is expecting it to take - or the amount of time it takes when you have gone round the whole process of correcting, arguing, getting stressed, re-doing etc?

DD1 is in Year 5. She doesn't get anywhere near that amount, but if she did, I'd probably be inclined to set a timer for the amount of time that the school says she should be spending, enforce that she does work for that amount of time, and then let her hand in whatever she's actually done.

If correcting it causes major stress, stop correcting it. It might make him take more responsibility for doing it properly in the first place. And the timer could avoid dragging it out into a marathon that he is bound to resent.

[SageMist]

My DD has to do 30-45 mins per night and she's in YR5 too. We have been told not to help her at all. Her teacher wants to know two things, how much she can do in the allotted time and how well she can do it. That way he can judge if she needs any extra help from him.

However DD doesn't seem to be able to any homework without asking for help, so its a challenge for us at the moment. No doubt things will settle down at the weeks go by.