This is an AIBU really, but it can be a bit of a nuthouse over there, so I'm putting it here instead.
DS2 (3rd DC, fwiw) is just coming to the end of reception. He's a summer-born boy, so was only just 4 when he started in September.
We had two 'incidents' in the first couple of weeks of school:
- The first day they had lunch in school, everyone in his class finished before him and went out to play. DS2 was left sitting at the table in the school hall by himself, panicked and started to cry. Wouldn't stop crying and tell the headteacher what the matter was, so she made him sit in a side room by himself all afternoon, sobbing, and wouldn't let him rejoin his class until he told her why he was crying
- Second incident was sheer bloody-mindedness - his class teacher asked him to do something and he refused to cooperate, and yes he deserved to be in trouble for it, but it happened in the first week of October.
So since then, there hasn't been one jot of trouble in school. He loves school, he is well-behaved, he has made brilliant progress. He's got lots of friends and is always coming home with stickers that he's got for good behaviour. He was voted in as school councillor for his class, he has brought home two end of term awards for numeracy and literacy. He's been moved into the 'top' group in his class, and is bringing home reading books a level higher than any other child. (I don't seriously think this stuff matters, I'm not actually that precious, I tell you only to illustrate that it has been a highly successful year.
AIBU to feel a bit sad that both his class teacher and his headteacher have chosen to write something on his report about 'early incidents of stubbornness' and 'initial reluctance to cooperate in big school'?
We're talking about two things (and I'd dispute whether the first one could really be blamed on him) that happened nine months ago in a (just) 5 y.o's life.
I feel like it's taken some of the gloss off what should have been a really great report.