Transition worries

[Karid1496]

Needing some reassurances. Dd12 transitioning up to high school this week and I'm really struggling emotionally. She is quite introvert and doesn't really put in the effort to make new friends, tends to sit back and watch and doesn't really make the first move to approach new people, I put that down to her age and being more self conscious along with being a quiet soul. She has a good group of close friends at her primary and gets along well with everyone in her class. I am really struggling with fearing that she is going to end up alone. I'm scared that all her friends are going to move on easily to new friends now that they are all split up and that my dd is going to be left behind. Im scared that her quietness and unease at making new friends is going to stop her from finding her tribe and living her life to the fullest.

[Clairenewbie]

Stop worrying, of course her friends will vanish into new groups because they usually get put into new classes but that doesn’t mean your daughter won’t find new friends. Quiet kids tend to latch onto each other, so she won’t be alone. If you worry she will pick up on it. She will find her own group, encourage her to join in on school clubs or join the school magazine, excellent hobbies for kids who are introvert

[Karid1496]

I'm hoping once she gets settled that I'll stop worrying so much, I'm stressing over situations that might never happen. I remember high school, it was hard. I'm trying to keep my emotions in check when I see her as my worst fear is to pass my insecurities on to her. Xxx

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Absolutely don’t worry and yes, she will pick up on it. You could be explaining my DS. 2 years on and he’s still friends with a few from Primary but has made new friends too. He’s not the most popular kid in the school but he’s not lonely either and the friends he does have are all good lads.

Do you take positive steps to try to reduce your anxiety?

[Floeer]

Really don't worry OP. Your DD will be encouraged to sit and mix with new people and she will find someone or a few of her classmates will easily start talking to her first!

I remember distinctly my first day of High School, I was with none of my friends at all but this girl I was paired with in a class just got talking to me and she was so lovely that I found it easy enough to talk to her back. We soon became best friends. I'm sure something similar will happen for you DD

[Karid1496]

Thank you all for your lovely comments......i never knew this age was going to be so difficult emotionally as a parent. That's her three days over and she won't be up again till after the summer holidays, hopefully I can calm myself down by that time. Xxx

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

hopefully I can calm myself down by that time. yes, definitely work on this over the summer

[Karid1496]

@JiltedJohnsJulie it'll be my summer holiday task, haha. I feel a bit better tonight as she has told me more about things that happened and I've seen some photos on the school twitter page. Im thinking maybe my time at school has affected me more than I thought. Xxx