I'm socially awkward and have few/no friends and had none growing up so I don't know if what my kids are facing is normal or not.
They have phones on the proviso we can go through them whenever we choose without warning to keep an eye on messaging etc.
My 12yo dc presents as very self confident, gregarious very friendly very kind individual but is also very cautious fragile and is a people pleaser. Since starting senior school they've not consistently mentioned the same group of children or individuals when discussing school and friendships. They have been invited to a couple of birthday parties but all class jobs (small school) more worrying though is when they had their birthday earlier this year not one child wanted to come to their celebration. Dc tried to shrug it off but I could see it clearly hurt them. Now to the phone. I've just looked through it and the group chat on WhatsApp is quite hurtful to read. They're all trying to meet up in town to loaf at the park and asking who can do what times, until my dc chipped in with the days they can't and can do. Almost immediately after they all post they can ONLY do the days my dc cant. It seems petty but as a parent this really hurt me. I don't know how dc feels but I know recently friendships etc or the lack of a good friend is really getting to them.
What can I do to help? Being social isn't something that comes naturally to me.
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PlayOnWurtz · 10/06/2017 22:18
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