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Underarm hair - 10yo

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vvviola · 05/06/2017 22:15

DD1 is almost 10. She's got some fairly wispy hair under her arms, although it's increasing a bit.

We were shopping for summer clothes today and when she tried something on, she said "but if I lift up my arms, people will see my hair there". I told her that it's fine, that all women have hair there and it's nothing to be embarrassed about (and I've said that to her before).

But.

I shave my armpits. Sometimes. But I would definitely shave them if wearing sleeveless tops on holidays etc. I'm not opposed to shaving.

I don't want her to feel self conscious over our holiday in particular, but I'm not sure I want to get her feeling like she has to shave all the time.

So do I let her do it has a once off? Just trim the hairs that are there? Tell her it's fine and nobody will care/notice?

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ijustwannadance · 05/06/2017 22:17

Let her remove the hair if she wants.

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AnnieOH1 · 05/06/2017 22:19

Let her remove them but perhaps with veet.

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SerfTerf · 05/06/2017 22:26

There are some fabulous young women on YouTube who make the case for body hair. I can't think of names just now. The stats for teens eschewing the razor are growing rapidly.

I would (did) discuss the politics of the thing a bit before handing out epilation gear. One of my DDs now shaves and the other rocks a lovely pale pelt.

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Ojoj1974 · 05/06/2017 22:27

I would let her remove the hair with Veet

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acornsandnuts · 05/06/2017 22:29

Just ask her if she wants to remove it. It's her body.

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elevenclips · 05/06/2017 22:33

If she wants to remove it you should definitely facilitate it. My friend's daughter went hunting for a razor (unsupervised) and cut herself.

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Dairymilkmuncher · 05/06/2017 23:48

If she doesn't want the hair then let her remove it, I started with veet around her age

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vvviola · 06/06/2017 11:28

I think I may have been over thinking it - that talking to her about removing it might make her feel that it is something to be ashamed of (and all the other changes that are happening).

I'll talk to her again about it before we go away and see if she wants me to help with removal.

She also stopped at the junior bras and crop tops in the shops the other day and asked did she need one. I said, probably not at the moment, but that we could have a think before she goes back to school in September to see did she need one then.

I all just seems to be happening for her a lot younger than for me, so I'm a bit thrown.