Can anyone offer any advise. My 11 yo DD has turned into the devil incarnate.
She is rude beyond belief, terrorising her little sister. Lately she has begun to get physical, she will push me, has thrown things at me and I am ashamed to say, I have reacted physically (after an hour of her screaming, ranting and pushing), I have lashed out. Unfortunately hitting her seems to be the only thing that will stop the behaviour in it's tracks, somehow it brings her back to her senses, she immediately stops whatever behaviour and just start's howling and crying like a baby. I don't know what is going on in her head.
I feel sick after I have smacked her, and devastated for her that she is dealing with all stress and emotions. I feel she is getting worse and worse and pushing more and more, by the day. She is so defiant and rude it is unbelievable. Up to recently, my husband was able to control her, but now she is being defiant with him.
I feel like we have tried everything, we ground her for a week at a time, take her phone and iPad, cancelled playdates, sit with her regular to try to understand and suggest strategies to manage her emotions, but nothing seems to work.
She has recently started her period, (3 months ago) but the moods don't coincide specifically with PMS. The worst of her behaviour is when she arrives in from school, it's like the minute she crosses the threshold to our house, all her demons are released.
There is always a big snack ready for her the minute she arrives home, which she devours, so it's not lack of food. She can't explain why afterwards, just shrugs her shoulders and say's she doesn't know, or blames me or her sister, for putting her in a bad mood. She is now rarely apologetic afterwards and despite seeing me in floods of tears, it just doesn't seem to bother her in the slightest.
Apparently she is enjoying school (just entered secondary school) nothing troubling her there, according to her. She is an angel at school and when she is with her friends. It's just her family she seems to hate.
I am thinking of taking her to a psychologist to try to get to the bottom of her anger issues, but my husband thinks we will screw her up even more if we take her to someone, although I think he is coming slowly around to the idea.
Any ideas of what our next steps should be ? would really appreciate any advice as I am at my wits end.
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