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will you let an 13 year old girl to sleepover with your 13 year old boy ?!

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emmatomson1 · 18/03/2014 10:47

hello all , ok my son have an project that he working with an best friend girl . so they are going to working on it to " late " for there age .

so he asked if she can sleepover that night and drive theme to school .

what you think i told him that i will think about it .

i really know my kid and he is gratefully very childish i know there are just children . he told me if i agree she want to ask her parents

there are some country by the way that is very normal to opposite sex sleeping each other houses like sweden , norway . i`m just saying though

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EmpressOfJurisfiction · 18/03/2014 10:53

I'd say yes, but one of them would sleep on the sofa.

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whattodoforthebest2 · 18/03/2014 10:58

She'd be sleeping on the sofa and I'd be speaking to/meeting her parents beforehand.

And keeping a very watchful eye.

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emmatomson1 · 18/03/2014 11:05

i didn`t say that they will sleep in the same bed !! maybe in the same room its a good idea !

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GinSoakedMisery · 18/03/2014 11:06

I would, as long as in different rooms.

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TeenAndTween · 18/03/2014 11:41

As a parent of girls I would rather collect late (what time are they planning to work until? - too late and it won't be productive anway) than have her stay over.

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SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 18/03/2014 11:43

Stopping over in a different room, fine. Definitely no to stopping in the same room.

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titchy · 18/03/2014 11:48

Fine if in different rooms - the same room is NOT a good idea at this age. I also don't allow sleepovers on school nights either, but you didn't ask about that!

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Tuhlulah · 25/03/2014 09:00

Yes of course let her stay over, and of course in a separate room. Even if you are not assuming they are going to be doing something dastardly, then don't you think she might want some privacy?

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Tuhlulah · 25/03/2014 09:01

...and presumably HER parents will require them to sleep in separate rooms too...

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Nicole1976 · 26/03/2014 21:43

I think a sleepover like that would be fine I've had a girl sleepover with my 13 yr old DS, they ate all the food in the house and annoyed me by saying 'hashtag' at the start of everything they said, but other than that it was fine.

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neontetra · 26/03/2014 21:46

I don't see a problem with the same room, if they are just friends and are happy with it (one or both of them might not be).

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grants1000 · 30/03/2014 13:25

Separate rooms totally. I have an 11 yo DS and some of his girl mates the same age look about 15, not that this means they would be more inclined to do anything, but just in case.

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Hulababy · 12/04/2014 19:56

Separate rooms - they need some privacy, especially if just friends.
Sleepover on a school night - well, if in separate rooms that gets round the staying up til silly hours and not getting enough sleep.

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Polonius · 12/04/2014 22:18

I can't imagine what 13 year old project requires that much work. Unless, of course, they've left it all until the night before.

I'd probably just drive him home late. Mostly because I can't be flagged with someone in my house during the pre-school rush, not because of genders or age.

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Polonius · 12/04/2014 22:19

That should be her and fussed, sorry.

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HagLady · 12/04/2014 22:20

I agree with Polonius. What 13 year old project needs that much collaboration?

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Iwillorderthefood · 12/04/2014 22:26

No definitely not.

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Viviennemary · 12/04/2014 22:32

No. I wouldn't agree to this. Best to be on the safe side and either her parents pick her up or you drive her home. They won't be able to work on the project when they are asleep.

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alita7 · 13/04/2014 15:42

Just put them in different rooms. I don't see an issue :)

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