My son is almost 10. He seems to have two interests in life:
- playing video games/watching minecraft videos
- playing sport
He isn't interested in watching sport or supporting a team. He isn't even that interested in the training side of playing sport. He just likes playing in matches (and he is pretty good at most sports he tries).
My concern is that he has so little interest in anything else. At home trying to get him to do anything other than stare at a screen is a nightmare. Even when I turn all screens off and suggest other ways for him to entertain himself (books, board games, nerf guns, lego, drawing, helping me cook a meal, going geocaching, bike riding etc) he just sulks.
It is as though he lacks curiousity in almost everything. My younger son (8) also loves sports and video games, but he will do other things like those mentioned above. He will ask his brother to play with him, but his brother just says no.
I suggested that perhaps he goes to a PGL camp with some friends next year as they have a huge number of activities. He said no, that it would be boring. I asked if he was just anxious about being away from home, but no, apparently everything on the extensive list of activities was just boring.
I asked what he would like for Christmas. All he wants is an xbox one as 'all his friends' are getting one. I have said no (he only recently got an xbox 360). He wanted a rugby top and that is where his list ended because he couldn't think of a single thing that he wanted, despite me making plenty of suggestions. But is annoyed as his brother has an extensive list and says it's not fair that his brother will get more than him.
It is as though he is completely apathetic and depressed. I want to tear my hair out with him. I try really hard to get him interested in other things - but I think perhaps I am just trying to hard and that I need to just remove all screens and tell him to rediscover his imagination.
Any suggestions on how to get him to do this? Am I being unrealistic in expecting a 10 year old today to play like we did when we were kids i.e. on our own, using imagination and entertaining ourselves?