DD2 age 9, yr4. Highly intelligent, posssibly gifted, especially in literacy.
Enjoys singing, dancing, reading, writing, art, history.
Plays well alone, plenty of friends, behaves well at school. Behaviour at home up and down. Fights with DD1 (14) but the fault there is 50/50.
Problem is her refusal to join in any activities.
At one stage, she would love the idea of something, then changes her mind at the last minute. Even as far arriving somewhere and her having a tantrun not to go in. If we do manage to calm her down and persuade her to go, she genreally enjoys it. But still refuses to go next time,
Now at the stage where anything suggested just gets a 'no, what's the point, will just be a bunch of idiots there etc' type comment.
Not just clubs and the like, even with family outings.
Absolutely refuses to attend any of DD1s performances, which usually means either DH or I can't both go. Possibly some jealousy there?
Only other 'clues' are she hates failure, so may possibly be feeling she cannot compete with her sister.
Makes me so sad for her, as feel she is missing out on so much. Apart from a weekly violin lesson, (which she frequently asks to drop) she does nothing outside of school.
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circular · 05/04/2012 13:58
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