DD1 is 3 and when I did her nursery application earlier this year I had a dilemma about whether to keep her at the community preschool where she currently is, or move her to the nursery attached to the local primary school. I had a look round the school nursery and although there were a lot of good things, great facilities etc and it is Ofsted outstanding there were some things I didn't like, mainly it seemed very school-like compared to the relaxed atmosphere of the preschool, teachers are called Mrs X rather than by their first name, there was too much emphasis on learning for my liking, such as tracing letters etc (I was told she will be writing her name by the time she starts school ) and they were given homework each week. Plus it was compulsory to attend 5 morning sessions, while at preschool she can do 2 full days and a half day, which suits me much better as I also have a 1yo DD2. Also, the school is very oversubscribed so there is no guarantee she will get into the school even if she has been at the nursery and I thought it would be too much disruption to move twice.
So I decided to keep her at preschool - she seems happy there, I like the idea of having 2 full days with both DDs so we can go on days out etc and then 2 full days when I can concentrate on DD2. The preschool has a lovely caring family atmosphere, DD frequently gives the carers lots of cuddles and is very settled there.
However, I'm now wondering if I did the right thing... the drawback of the preschool is they take kids age 2-4 and they are all mixed in together (apart from a half-hour session at the beginning of the day when the 3-4 year olds do something different). There were some new kids starting today and it struck me just how young the 2yos seem now next to DD. Talking to other parents, most of the 3yos will be moving on to school nurseries in September or January, so this time next year DD will be one of the older ones (I know of one other definitely staying, thankfully it is her best friend!). There is no 'structured' learning, just lots of free-flow play and activities. I thought this was what I wanted, but now I am getting cold feet especially after talking to another mum who was banging on about the need for 'structure' to prepare them for school.
What if she starts school and she's the only one who can't write her name/do letters because the others have all been taught it at the school nursery? What if she starts getting really bored at preschool when all her little friends leave? Have I made a massive mistake??
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smallpotato · 22/06/2011 10:08
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