I'm 19+2 weeks with identical twins, and over the last couple of weeks I've been really suffering with hormones. I didn't realise at first. just figured everyhting DH was doing was annoying, and just had to tell him very bluntly exactly how he was overweight, being insupportive, dusting the wrong way(!!!) and generally the worst DH in the world. However I 'm starting to realise its me and hormones. I wanted to wake him up today as he'd put stuff on the wrong shelf of the airing cupboard. (It was 6am!). I'm also constantly on the brink of tears,Which is awkward in work.
I am woundering if a lot of this is being made worse as i've been doing loads of work recently, bringing home work every day and weekend, as there seems to be lots to do.
How long will this last, or does anyone have any tips to deal with it. Its putting so much pressure on DH and us, and its making me miserable, as i'm constantly feeling guilty for the latest verbal attack on DH. Which then brings on the tears, which I now seem to have no control over! Help!
Really feel for you - the hormone fairy has been visiting me too!!
I think it's a case of reducing the stress where you can, then the irrational things that creep up on you aren't so diffcult to deal with. For example, DH has been re-decorating the whole house so we've basically been living in a dust covered tip,which is driving me mental and I've been constantly going off my head at him for no good reason. the last couple of weeks however, he's taken a break from it all and we've got the place cleaned up and put the tools away for a bit (before the next phase begins!) and I've been soooo much calmer - still feel a bit stabby sometimes, but it's easier to take a deep breath and remind myself that I'm being unreasonable!
Perhaps if you can ditch some of the scary workload you might be able to give yourself a bit more "capacity" for the other stuff? Also talk to your DH about it - I told mine that it was a bit like having PMT all the time and he has been so much more understanding and forthcoming with hugs and chocolate since!!!!
DH is quite good really, but he gave up smoking last week, so he is toxic and hell to live with at the moment. Just want a magic fairy to appear and hey presto its a couple of weeks time, I've done all my work, hormones have gone and DH has gotten over initial moody nicotine withdrwal stage.
Might be an idea to see if you and dh can get away for a short break (even just a night somewhere?) in a couple of weeks? Would give you something to look forward to and some 'quality' time might be helpful after hormone-hell? Might also be a nice way to make your dh feel a bit appreciated too!
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