Anxiety

[EmmyT2020]

Hi everyone. Hoping others can help. Had a positive pregnancy test on Saturday 26th with clear blue digital. It said Pregnant 3+ weeks. Rang the midwives today and was told to expect a call back within the next 2 weeks but I am feeling so anxious - is this normal? I keep fretting what if the test was wrong or something goes wrong. 2 weeks feels like so long. Anyone else feeling this way? Trying to talk to dh but I don’t think he understands as much.

[leftitlate37]

ah hi @EmmyT2020! congratulations! im not sure i can help but feel the exact same as u! me and hubby were talking about it tonight that u feel like u should be excited but just have this nagging anxiety. i honestly never imagined i'd feel like this! i've got my booking appt next week and swear i feel like im gonna be turned away cos i got it all wrong!
im sure the test wasnt wrong for one :) so don't worry on that score! as for feeling that something can go wrong....i think its normal for us to have those worries but am just trying to tell myself,im taking the right vitamins etc, eating as healthily as poss (ok the odd naughty thing ooops), cutdown caffeine, not drunk, exercising....its kinda all we can do until we get these appointments. do u think u might book a private scan?im contemplating it for next week as got some time off work and meant to be going away so want to just get some reassurance (hopefully). Is this your 1st pregnancy? x

[TheDaydreamBelievers]

I feel exactly the same @EmmyT2020 @leftitlate37. Like, so I got a positive test now... no one even talks to me for weeks?! And no one checks I'm actually pregnant for 6 more weeks?!?!

I feel so anxious about something going wrong in that time. Want to tell our mums and close pals but also... what if it goes wrong?!

[leftitlate37]

Awww @TheDaydreamBelievers I feel kinda glad there are others in same boat but also sad we seem to feel like that!!
Weve actually just told both sets of parents, with the kinda proviso they dont get too excited...but I felt like I'd defo need the support if anything doesnt go to plan. Actually its really nice cos when felt bit rubbish and hadnt slept it didnt feel weird my mum knowing, whereas otherwise shed be like well what's wrong with u!! U gotta do whats right for you tho:) how r u feeling generally?! X

[TheDaydreamBelievers]

Aww that's lovely @leftitlate37 - hope your parents were happy! I've told just my best friend and she was super happy for us but I also told her to be cautious! Wanted to tell her early as she is also trying. We might tell parents nearer 8/9 weeks. I'm only 5 weeks atm! Feels like the scan is forever away still

[Lantern156]

Congratulations!

Anxiety is so, so normal. I found the first 12 weeks really hard because I was constantly worried something would go wrong.

I kept reminding myself that the odds are massively in my favour to have a healthy pregnancy, that whatever happens I’m pregnant now, and that I can’t control what’s happening so I have to let it go. It helped me keep the feelings under control.

For what it’s worth, my anxiety settled down a lot after the 12 week scan, and now that I’m 29 weeks I feel pretty confident most of the time. So hopefully it will be the same for you and the longer you go the better you feel!

[grey12]

First appointment took forever!!! Unfortunately that's how things are.... if you had problems with previous pregnancies talk to GP about it

Congratulations and good luck

[Tempusfudgeit]

You could have a private scan if you are past 6 weeks, although it may not ease your anxiety! Pregnancy is 40-odd weeks of going from one anxiety to the next, then after the birth it's worse! Spend your time now learning how to manage it. Good luck and congratulations

[EmmyT2020]

Hi all. Thank you so much for all your comments 😊 I’m a teacher so trying to stay focused on work and not keep obsessing - but easier said than done! This is my first pregnancy so I think that’s adding to my anxiety as I don’t know what’s normal. Like pp said about the wait, I didn’t think that it would take so long for someone to check you definitely are! Keeping fingers crossed al is ok and for everyone else too xx

[TheDaydreamBelievers]

I definitely feel added scans would NOT help my anxiety.

Just have to remind myself that odds are in our favour (@Lantern156 thank you) and also that theres nothing I can do but take care of myself