Hi everyone :),
I'm new on here, im currently 37+5 days pregnant with my first baby who is going to be a girl!
I wanted to post because I feel a bit upset and confused over an experience at my hospital. At 36 weeks I was told baby was transverse, they gave her five days to move or I would need to go into hospital. Thankfully at my next scan she had moved but she is now breech. I attended my antenatal day unit to talk through my options but from the minute I got into the scan I felt like they were really pushing me to have an ECV. I won't go into too much detail but I had two midwives talking at me about my options saying things like 'If it was MY baby I wouldn't take the risk' (regarding breech birth) and 'I don't know anyone who would elect for a c section over an ECV'. As I was leaving one midwife even said to me she thought I would be 'stupid' not to accept an ECV . They kept telling me that they weren't judging me and they were impartial but I wasn't once made to feel like I even had a choice and they certainly weren't being impartial. I had read up a little on ECV before the appointment and already decided on my own that I wouldn't accept but they made me feel like I was somehow inadequate if I didn't accept it and opted for a c section. So for the past few days I've been a nervous wreck thinking that I somehow had to convince myself into having the ECV.
I had my follow up appointment today where it was just assumed by every midwife there that I was having this flipping procedure and I kept having to correct them. When I eventually got into the room with the doctor she was again really trying to push me down that route and even started contradicting things that the other midwives had said in terms of the risk! When I explained that I wouldn't be going ahead with it she started to ask me why and slightly argue with me but in the end said she could see I had made up my mind.
I haven't had any problems with my care up until this point and every midwife I've spoken to has been lovely, it just seems this particular unit. It's all started to mess with my head a little and I'm starting to question myself about whether I've made the right decision. Am I thinking too much about this? Is this usual practice to get people away from C section? Any outside opinion would be helpful, I think I'm so far in my own head at the minute xxx
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Feel guilty about declining ECV and sad about how I've been treated
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PollyPocket245 · 31/07/2020 17:59
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