This sounds harsh and ungrateful I know, but I’ll try to get straight to the point. I have a well-meaning but irrational mother who I have a complicated relationship with, who lives a few hours away from me. She will be desperate to see her first (and probably only) grandchild as soon as possible after birth, and with a few weeks left til my due date I am already feeling quite stressed about having to deal with her arriving when I will probably be in quite a vulnerable and knackered state. And also about her being on “labour watch” and bugging me incessantly as I approach (and maybe pass) my due date. She typically messages me 10 or more times a day (some days a LOT more) and calls frequently too, so it is unusual for her not to have some contact with me each day. Has anyone been in a similar situation and got any tips on how to manage it?
I’m thinking of going off all social media and messaging platforms at 38/39 weeks on the premise of chilling out and practicing my hypnobirthing etc and telling her that my partner will let her and other close family know when the baby is here.
Fortunately our house is tiny so she won’t be able to stay with us. I know I sound so mean but I just want to get myself together before she descends on us. She’s neurotic and thinks she knows best about everything, especially babies (she’s obsessed and I mean truly obsessed with all babies!), so is likely to be very interfering and overbearing. I know I’m probably overthinking it and need to chill the heck out, but any pointers on useful tactics would be great.
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TryingToStayRational · 23/10/2018 23:19
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