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Am I being over sensitive at this comment.. That I'm lazy,

(10 Posts)
CinnamonAndSpice Thu 07-Dec-17 10:30:21

Quick background
I work only part time but in a very stressful, busy, demanding job that's short staffed. So taking mat leave at 29 weeks.
Out of work I obviously of sch runs for DS, clubs etc. The normal mum stuff. Dp does a fair bit too however he works full time and is also self employed for evening work. So I just do it.

My mum is always going on that I should do less etc etc.. But I actually enjoy doing all the stuff I do, whether that's with DS. Around the house or whatever.

I have been having little to no sleep at night, again the norm pregnancy stuff and that's all.

Anyway my mother was saying, well you'll be bored when your off on maternity leave, but you can take me here there and everywhere.
So I said we'll I won no be I have DS birthday between new yr and baby arrival. And obviously get everything washed and ironed etc.
Plus I can sleep in the day ( I seem to sleep In the day perfectly fine for some reason)

She got uppety and said we'll that's just lazy sleeping in the day. You can't do that when baby here... Well a) I know that and b) actually a one off when baby naps I can nap if needed

I feel annoyed by this, as in one breath she's saying to slow down, always having a pop that lack of sleep ' isn't normal and to see someone' ( I know it's normal lol)
But on the next she's got shitty as I have said I can sleep in the day if needed... I don't mean everyday but on the more exhausted days.

noodlesandtomatoes Thu 07-Dec-17 11:18:51

You're not lazy, she's just rude.

dangle90 Thu 07-Dec-17 11:48:46

I'd be annoyed. Think she's said that comment as she's annoyed she won't have an on hand taxi!!

CinnamonAndSpice Thu 07-Dec-17 11:49:04

That's what dp said too.

Ah don't tell her. I'm gonna try and nap now. After only sleeping. 11.45-12.30 then 3.30-6am lol

dangle90 Thu 07-Dec-17 13:06:08

I've been up since 2 aswel 😴 enjoy your nap!

CinnamonAndSpice Thu 07-Dec-17 13:45:37

Ah bless ya. X
I certainly did.. Just woke up ready to do school run in a bit x

RosieCotton Thu 07-Dec-17 19:38:32

I would say she was being rude. Honestly I can't sleep at night for love nor money! During the day though I have no issues, I have 3 smaller naps in the day and tend to be awake until 2-3am in morning. Lol.

I say enjoy the naps and don't take what she said to heart.

EekThreek Thu 07-Dec-17 19:46:42

You can't sleep when the baby's here:

"No mum, that's why I'm taking the opportunity to do it as much as fucking possible now!"

Or something politer, which she doesn't deserve. How rude wink

BigBaboonBum Thu 07-Dec-17 21:00:45

Tell her to give over! Some of my best sleeps with newborns are day time naps. I think older generations put too much stress on themselves to be perfect house wife types tbh. I’ll be lazing in bed with my boobs flopped out for easy access and do very little else tbh. My eldest has been practicing making lunch for him and his brother etc

CL1982 Fri 08-Dec-17 10:50:12

Everything that everyone else said. Sounds like your mum likes the idea of a taxis service! As another posted said it's not 1950 - you don't have to do it all and you don't have to be a perfect housewife either. Rest all you can - your mental health is vital to your kids and partner's well being as much as for your own!

This is your time when your mum helps you - not the other way around smile

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