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Feeling guilty for being excited

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lovelystar Thu 02-Nov-17 15:40:32

I'm 6 months pregnant tomorrow and everytime i get flutters of excitement about out new arrival I feel guilty, me and my partner still have nowhere to live and he still has no job. I'm just feeling a bit gutted really that out first pregnancy has been nothing but stress and worry and I haven't been able to enjoy any of it, which is what I really want. I guess what I'm asking is is did anyone else go through this and did it work out ok in the end? I just want to relax and buy things and heel excited but instead I'm working full time trying to support all of us

Sorry for the rambling post

AnUtterIdiot Thu 02-Nov-17 15:50:43

I haven't been in that situation specifically, but I have been hard up before and my strong advice is that when you get those flutters of excitement you should grab them with both hands and really bloody enjoy them because you're working your arse off and you deserve them. Congratulations!

OuchLegoHurts Thu 02-Nov-17 16:05:38

Yes, as idiot said, it's a very special time and you should definitely enjoy it as much as you can despite your financial worries. Things can go wrong or improve at any time but you won't be pregnant forever and it would be a shame to regret not enjoying those kicks and flutters when the child is older. All you can do is focus on the baby and worrying won't change anything I suppose. The actual amount of stuff a newborn needs isn't huge...pram, changing mat, cot or crib and some babygros, vests and nappies basically. I'm pregnant again after ten years and we're really reducing the amount we buy this time as we realised so much of it is unnecessary clutter! And u can pick up great second hand stuff online.

Dozer Thu 02-Nov-17 16:09:07

Sorry you’re in this situation.

It could well work out fine, yes, if your DP is a good partner and father. Eg he gets his working life sorted out. But there are many posters on MN in bad situations due to a crappy DP/H.

IME Life is more challenging after DC, eg work, money, health. But DC are obviously wonderful!

Smurf123 Thu 02-Nov-17 16:22:20

Lovely I agree with what the others have said try to enjoy it but I do know how difficult it is!
My husband lost his job on Friday*.*. And I'm 5 months pregnant.. First time he has been in a job he was actually enjoying too.. I have found the past week really difficult to get my head around it all. But I just keep trying to remind myself that things will work out and hopefully he will get another job soon.
Good luck*!*!

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