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Everyone keeps telling me it's TWINS 😱

(21 Posts)
mustbemad17 Thu 02-Nov-17 10:52:39

I'm roughly 9 weeks pregnant with my third & I am apparently really big. I feel a lot bigger than I have done with the last two pregnancies, in fact it's been the hardest pregnancy in a lot of ways. Everyone is determined I'm carrying twins & I am freaking out 😱 Please somebody tell me that they too were bigger with their third...that it was harder for them...but they were still only carrying one child 😂

I have had a scan (had to have early scan at 6 weeks due to pain) & there was only one sac & one heartbeat. And still everyone is like 'could be hiding behind' 😂😂 please somebody just tell me this is normal for number three 😂😂

MotherOfDragons22 Thu 02-Nov-17 11:00:04

You have very rude friends. People tried that shit with me as well. Its horrifically rude!

mustbemad17 Thu 02-Nov-17 11:02:13

The scary thing is I am bigger than I have been previously with pregnancies 😂 Although it did knock me when a total stranger asked me if I knew how many there were 😑

ownedbySWD Thu 02-Nov-17 11:04:10

My body.just remembered what to do and the muscles gave up the ghost very quickly! I got big early on, but then stayed the same size for ages. Only one baby!

snugasapuginarug Thu 02-Nov-17 11:05:53

I'm 24 weeks with baby 3 and I'm definitely bigger than with my other two. My bumps always looked pretty small with them too so I feel like a whale this time. So I wouldn't worry too much smile

ILoveDolly Thu 02-Nov-17 11:07:42

Frightening! But seriously with my third I was absolutely massive, probably no muscles left to hold it in, I think its likely that the scan is correct, you are just all slack now m'dear grin

mustbemad17 Thu 02-Nov-17 11:17:08

ILoveDolly I am more than happy with that haha! Obviously if it were twins we would deal with it but right now I am already like 'omg where exactly is the baby going' 😂

OwnedbySWD thank you!! Hopefully that is me too 😂😂

AntiHop Thu 02-Nov-17 11:19:58

Could you afford a private scan to put your mind at rest?

mustbemad17 Thu 02-Nov-17 11:55:28

I debated that but I have an NHS dating scan next month. Although the whole 'baby number two is hiding' doesn't help put me at ease even with a scan 😂 Think i'm just going to become a recluse for the next few months & avoid people 🙈

MinorRSole Thu 02-Nov-17 12:00:30

You have very rude friends. People tried that shit with me as well. Its horrifically rude!

I wouldn’t describe it as rude really. A lot of people find pregnancy exciting. I got huge with my 3rd pregnancy,
All the usual symptoms were more intense too, we all joked about** it being twins. I wasn’t overly surprised when the scan revealed 2 tbh

My sister got pregnant shortly after me, 3rd pregnancy too and big bump quickly but 1 baby so it’s no real indicator I don’t think

ArkadyRose Thu 02-Nov-17 12:12:35

If there was only one sac and one heartbeat visible at 6 weeks then you're definitely only carrying the one - it wouldn't be possible for another to "hide behind" it! But by the third time your muscles just aren't as tight as they used to be - couple that with the inevitable bloating you get in the first trimester and yes, you'll have a bump. Doesn't help when people try to scare you by insisting it might be twins though - I had that a lot with my third too.

mustbemad17 Thu 02-Nov-17 12:22:42

I know it sounda daft but I am so relieved other people have experienced it 😂 My first two pregnancies were perfect; no adverse symptoms, no sickness, really tiny, neat little bump. This one? I've had sickness, nausea, dizziness, & the bump is just reminiscent of me having swallowed a beach ball 😂😂

ArkAdyRose that was my thought too; surely something would be visible if there were two floating around!!

I don't think my friends are rude (maybe the stranger was!!) they just like being involved but they also know how much it freaks me out to think about twins. They're just mean!!

Pennywhistle Thu 02-Nov-17 12:31:12

I have twins. I think these days, it would be pretty uncommon for them not to have caught that it was twins at the early scan tbh. It was certainly pretty immediately obvious at our 7 week scan.

Twin mums get prescribed huge doses of folic acid and are looked after a bit differently (more scans, specialist consultants etc) than Singleton mums so they are keen to identify ASAP.

I don’t think you have anything to worry about.

I was huge and was regularly asked “is it twins?” by some wit who was then visibly disappointed when I said yes so I came to the conclusion that people only say “I bet it’s twins” to be rude.

Congratulations on your baby btw I hope you start to feel better soon.

mustbemad17 Thu 02-Nov-17 12:59:27

PennyWhistle thank you!! That is so much more reassuring.
Thank you, i'm hoping once I hit twelve weeks it will all go back to how I know pregnancy to be 😂

NW10teacher Thu 02-Nov-17 13:31:21

I'm having twins and the main indicator for me was really bad morning sickness in the first tri. I was showing quite early, but not hugely so. A couple of my friends were surprised when I told them because they thought I'd be bigger.

So size isn't always the biggest clue!

2014newme Thu 02-Nov-17 13:33:03

If you have had a scan and it's not twins it's unlikely to be twins

Chipsahoy Thu 02-Nov-17 13:51:27

I'm on my third and huge. Also feel really ill this time around, but definitely only one baby bouncing around in there. I had similar comments and honestly I'm sick to death of people making comments on my body.

AnUtterIdiot Thu 02-Nov-17 16:01:46

No one's asked me if it's twins, even though it is! I think it's because I'm quite tall. Unbelievably rude of people to ask though. If it's any consolation, when I say it is twins 50% of people will just head straight to "was it IVF?" and the other 50% will try the slightly less offensively nosy "is there a history of twins in your family?" (which is really asking the same thing). It wasn't IVF actually - I'm just old and my ovaries are desperate for me to get pregnant so have become double eggers. But I really resent that people think it's OK to just blurt out such a personal question which is obviously going to be incredibly fraught and emotional for a lot of people.

AnUtterIdiot Thu 02-Nov-17 16:02:41

PS they were very visibly twins on our 10 week scan so if they haven't picked up that it's twins yet I very much doubt you're having them!

Wooders09 Thu 02-Nov-17 18:19:50

I'm pregnant with my third (33wks) and I am pretty much told on a daily basis how big I am. People still say 'Are you sure there's only one in there' ....it drives me mad. I think it's rude tbh, I think when you become pregnant people think it's their right to comment on your size. They wouldn't dream of it if you weren't pregnant!!!

Unfortunately once you get passed the first pregnancy the muscles etc 'give way' a lot easier so you will be bigger than with previous pregnancies.

giraffesareok Fri 03-Nov-17 19:52:18

Twins here too, and they were definitely visible on a 6 week scan - 2 sacs, 2 very-tiny-but-distinct heartbeats. As others have said, there’s not a lot for one to hide behind smile. Hope you’re feeling much better soon.

I am gleefully enjoying the look on the faces of people who say “are you sure you haven’t got two in there, ha ha” when I reply “I have, actually...” grin Hopefully it may discourage them from trying that one on someone else!

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