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Just found out I'm pregnant and so scared

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Mummyneedinganswers · 27/07/2017 10:13

Hiya.
So I have a lg who's 20 months and found out the other day I'm pregnant again. I'm so scared I'm going to lose this baby. In November of last year I didn't know I was pregnant and thought I was having a bad period but a baby came out of me in my bathroom and it was the most traumatizing thing that's happened to me. I've also had 5 miscarriages in total 4 before I had my LG and 1 after her. So now I'm sitting here expecting to lose this baby as I'm so used to it. My back is snapping and my stomach is aching, and I have the worst nausea going just like my pregnancy with my LG. How do I get rid of this fear I'm almost certain this pregnancy won't last because this always happens to me. Is it bad I'm being so negative? Or is this fear normal my oh just keeps telling me to be positive and don't let the fear overcome me but I don't know how to stop it

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AmyB1986 · 27/07/2017 11:29

Hi hun, so sorry you're going through this but your feelings are completely natural after suffering so many loses.
I have two dd's and currently pregnant with our 3rd dd. I've had 4 mc's in the past at various stages of pregnancy. Twin pregnancy was lost at 22 weeks, dd1's twin was lost at 8 weeks. Another baby at 6 weeks and another at 10 weeks both prior to this pregnancy.
In the beginning of this pregnancy, I was constantly fearing the worst. Every twinge had me panicking. It was exhausting. As the pregnancy progressed I relaxed more and in the end I realised my worrying was not going to change the outcome either way.
The one thing that really helped was talking to my midwife about my anxiety. There are lots of resources available through the midwife services such as specialty mental health Midwife's. I also went to see my gp who referred me to an in house therapist just to talk about how I was feeling. I also felt I was burdening my DH with my anxieties and didn't want to scare him or pass it on to him either which is why the therapist was a god send to me.

Perhaps try contacting your midwife for some advice and help.
There is a thread on here also for ladies who are pregnant after mc, they're absolutely fab and so supportive. Always willing to listen if you need any help.
Remember today you're pregnant and congratulations

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CL1982 · 27/07/2017 11:51

You poor thing. We have had 3 early miscarriages. We went to the clinic when we were pregnant again and the best thing the doctor said was 'be as positive as possible'. So we have been so freaking positive. I know it is so hard.

Have you been to the recurrent mc unit at your local hospital? I can recommend -they have been so supportive for us and offered us reassurance scans every 2-3 weeks. Made all the difference for me as I had a wobble this week and saw my little Win nuggett on the screen with a wonderful strong heartbeat. Please do get a referral. And pm me if you want any advice or help.

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Mummyneedinganswers · 27/07/2017 14:14

Thank you ladies. It's great to know how I'm feeling is normal. I aswell don't want to pass my dear into my oh as he's ecstatic about the baby but I'm just so struck with fear it's almost like I'm waiting for it to happen. With my LG I had constant scans every couple of weeks but that was due to issues with the pregnancy I don't know how I would cope this time if I only had a couple of scans and had to sit the anxiety out the whole pregnancy. I'm trying to be positive sometimes I'm forgetting that I'm pregnant and then when I remember it just cripples me with anxiety x