Scared and planned C section?

[Nosleep1]

hi I just wanted some reassurance. I had a difficult birth with my first son, induced labour, no progression (not past 1 cm) for 12 hours on the lovely drip then eventually E/S at the end with lots of blood loss etc. this time I am consultant led, and they gave me the option of either going the 'normal way' or planning a c/s. Of course I chose the CS as wasn't up for going through same thing again and am terrified. However when I told my consultant this, she said ok, but proceeded to then almost talk me out of it, and I ended up in tears while she was giving me my scan. The midwife with her wasn't too supportive either even though they had all my notes from the last time. tears didn't seem to have any affect on either of them - not that they were put on! but I felt a bit of a 2 against 1 situation and almost shamed for as they put it - not wanting to 'give it a go'.
Have woke up since the apt last week in tears worrying about having a delivery, the pain, the same experience etc especially since the consultant had described all the things that could go wrong if I delivered vaginally (sorry if tmi).
Basically thought I was being given an option, chose what I wanted then was tried to be talked out of it. Was hard to stick to my guns when an emotional wreck, scared, anxious...
Anyone else had a similar experience, or is it now a days they try to persuade you to 'give it a go' even though offering you a planned CS?
(I should say we discussed if I go into labour early, or go into labour on my own and baby on its way then it would be a normal birth.)
Any help, reassurance, someone to tell me its ok is much appreciated :)

[BlueIsTheNewBlue]

I could of wrote your post myself, I know exactly how your feeling. Please don't let it ruin the last part of your pregnancy. I did and I regret it so much. When I had my first child 5 years ago it was very traumatic and ended in an emergency section with loss of blood due to fault on the doctors when they tried forceps first. So when I became pregnant 3 years later I was worried sick. My midwives all the way through reassured me that I could have an elective, that was until I saw the consultants who made me feel incredibly guilty and even wrote different to what I'd said I wanted on my notes. I ended up in floods of tears with my midwife who sorted everything for me, she was lovely and told me to just stick to my guns. Best advice ever! From the moment I arrived at the hospital til when I left with my lo was so relaxed and calming. I think the hospital doctors are told to push vbac. Have a word with your midwife and tell her how you was made to feel.

Sorry I've waffled on

[DuggeeHugs]

My consultant asked what I wanted (after EMCS first delivery) and I was adamant that I wanted a CS this time. She gave me all the negative statistics, none of the positive ones, and finished with 'if you have a VB at least you'll feel like you tried'. I cried quite a few times at home but stuck to my guns and told the midwife and consultant every time I saw them that I wanted a CS. They agreed it in the end and DD arrived via a lovely ELCS almost a fortnight ago.

It really shouldn't be this hard and I'm sorry you're going through this too - but keep reiterating what you want at every opportunity. They are listening, even if they don't like what you're saying. Good luck

[Nosleep1]

Thank you everyone - honestly you don't know how reassuring reading your posts are. I will - i'll stick to my guns and have made an apt with my GP who I have a good relationship with to see if she can support me too. As if having a baby never mind being pregnant isn't hard enough you would think they would have a bit more empathy with us all. But thank you so much xo

[ThisBabyIsAnOctopus]

I had a similar first birth to you - failed induction followed by EMCS. This time round I was certain I wanted a ELCS and I've had no problems at all with this either with midwife or consultant. They are obliged to discuss various risks with you but it is your decision, just keep stating that you choose ELCS - AFAIK they can't refuse you.
If you go into labour before a planned ELCS date then you'll need to present to hosp and they will still perform a CS UNLESS labour is too far progressed.
How far along are you? You only need to make a final decision sometime in 3rd trimester I think? Not sure that going to the GP will benefit you much as you don't need their support to get a ELCS.
Might be worth familiarising yourself with the NICE guidelines if you are still struggling to gain agreement.

[Lunalovepud]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you op - you are entitled to a section having had one already and even though your consultant is supposed to give you all of the information about risks and benefits, in the end the decision is yours. It's your body and you baby and they can't do anything to either of you without your consent. If you go into labour before your CS date, they can still give you a section then too.

Please take someone supportive with you to your next appointment and just insist on what you want. If they won't play ball, ask to see another consultant. Again - you are entitled.

I have been fortunate for the most part to have supportive midwives and consultants but I did have one who was awful - pressure and judgement when I was already ill with preeclampsia and practically hysterical that something would happen to my baby before he couldn't be born. I wonder why these people get into obstetrics in the first place - they need reminding that their role will to work with the mother towards give the safest birth possible, closest to the wishes of the mother as possible.

Good luck with everything.