I have one DS (5yo) and started trying for #2 2.5 years ago. We then had 4 mc's, one very traumatic and I was admitted to hospital via a&e with huge blood loss (amongst other things but that's another story!)
Anyway. So after going to various clinics and having a stream of tests done, choosing a treatment plan etc, I'm now 35 weeks pregnant. I feel amazingly lucky to have got this far, and we are looking forward to meeting our DC2.
However, I've struggled to bond with this baby, I've had difficulties accepting things will work out, even now. I've been very guarded and protected myself from the diappointment of losing this child. It's got easier in recent weeks as I've bigger, felt baby grow and move, and have had to prepare for hospital/baby.
But I'm beginning to feel overwhelmed by negative feelings and worries. I'm scared that deep down this baby is 'not meant to be' and something awful will happen in labour. Either I will haemorrhage and die, or the baby, or both. Or something will cause the baby to suffer and be disabled in some way. I know these are all irrational thoughts but I can't seem to shake them. My labour with DS was not traumatic, just prolonged and I did end up haemorrhaging due to my episiotomy, but didn't need blood transfusion or anything. It was just unpleasant. I suppose with that and the miscarriage I have a couple of bad experiences of labour and blood loss and I'm nervous it will happen again, and the 'bad things' could happen in this labour.
I guess I'm just concerned and don't know how to manage these fears. I've been half wondering if they may allow me to request a c-section as I feel I want this labour to be controlled and managed with no surprises! But then I'm well aware c-sections being their own set of risks. So I don't really know what to do. I just feel anxiety rising as I approach due date. My local midwife dsnt see me anymore as I have gestational diabetes and see the consultant regularly now, which is good to monitored like that but at the same time I Dnt feel I can talk to her about my anxieties this way.
I'm not sure what advice I'm after, just need to get the thoughts out and see if anyone else has been in similar situation. Or if anyone has had c-section for similar reasons, and if there were benefits to it. I've never actually wanted a c-section before, I'd always been keen to deliver vaginally where possible. But something is making me think c-section could alleviate some of my worries this time.
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35 weeks after 4 mc's - beginning to panic about something going wrong in labour.
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Lucinda15 · 06/05/2017 16:04
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