First trimester struggles

[user1486549204]

I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant with my second child (I have a 4 year old) the first few weeks of pregnancy I felt great, loads of energy and no sickness. Since last week however that has changed big time. I can't eat anything, and I constantly feel like I have vertigo. I've had almost 2 weeks off work so far.
The problem is I feel so guilty that my partner and parents have had to help me out so much with taking my son to school etc, the house work hasn't been done properly in ages and I can't physically cook a meal without being sick.
Feeling like a bit of a failure at the moment . Anyone else feeling similar?

[hopsalong]

Yup, me. I don't have much advice (now 27 weeks) but you have my sympathies! Interesting you mention vertigo: that's exactly how I have felt in this pregnancy. I also had v bad morning sickness until 16 weeks, now making something of a return (bad enough to need medication, which I didn't need with #1). I have spent the entire pregnancy wanting to ignore everyone and lie on the bed. At worst points haven't even been able to use my phone because feeling so dizzy. No blood tests have shown anything wrong with me -- not anemic or anything, though I do seem to have very low white blood cells. Blood pressure on the low side (last pregnancy it was quite high).

I wish someone would do some research into this vertigo thing. My anti-morning sickness medication stopped the vomiting and most of the nausea, but nothing has touched the dizziness.

I have had to relax my standards for everything a LOT. Ready meals for all of us, toast for dinner for my toddler, and lots of time off work... Getting to bed early does seem to help but I am not always consistent!

[TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder]

Do not feel guilty. I'm sure your mum and DP love you to bits and are happy to step in. I think most people would take a few extra chores over horrendous morning sickness, vertigo and fatigue so I think your DP is getting the easy end of the deal and I'm sure he appreciates that! If he doesn't, he needs telling in no uncertain terms.

I know everybody loves to say "you're pregnant, not ill" but when you've got your head stuck down the loo and feel like death warmed up for months on end, it makes bugger all difference what is causing you to feel that way. It obviously still impacts your ability to carry out your normal role.

Keep telling yourself that this won't last forever and keep your eyes on the prize. FWIW, most people (myself included) generally feel much, much better by 14-17 weeks.

[lucyst87]

Thank you, that makes me feel a little better. My first pregnancy was a breeze, I felt a bit icky at times but that's it.
It is the dizziness that is the worst I think. I felt better yesterday so I told my boss I would be in tomorrow, now I'm so worried that I have to let them down again. I know companies can't discriminate against pregnancy, but I just feel like I'm letting everyone down. Here's hoping it calms down soon