With DC1 I didn't want to find out whether he was a boy or a girl until he was born. Reasons were:
- I didn't want people applying gender stereotypes before he'd even been born. I wanted him to develop his own character without any stereotypical expectations.
- I like bright, gender-neutral baby clothes and toys, and didn't want to be inundated by either pink or blue (clearly this happened after he was born anyway, but you know).
- I liked the idea of experiencing something women for years before had (albeit through lack of technology and choice) - not finding out until birth. That probably makes little sense but I'm a history geek and it made sense to me at the time.
- I am crap at surprises and enjoyed giving myself the ultimate surprise.
Now pregnant with DC2 and am rather tempted to find out this time, simply for a different experience. However, the above points are still important to me. My 20 week scan is next week, and although I'm focused on wanting everything to be healthy, present and correct, I cannot make up my mind about finding out the sex.
DH says he doesn't mind either way, which is no help at all. I don't know if I could manage not to tell anyone if we did find out. Gaaah. I'm also very skeptical of it always being correct.
One more point, to avoid drip-feeding, is that I suffered horrendous PND and psychosis and I struggled to bond with DS for many months. Would finding out help me to bond before birth?
Please tell me pros and cons of both options and help me decide.