I've just found out I'm pregnant, accidentally. I was on the pill but we had a drunken error over Christmas while I was on antibiotics which has obviously stopped it being effective.
I should be pleased because on paper it's all good. Married, stable financially, own home, one child already.
But I'm not, I'm sad.
Sad for beautiful 6 month old DD, who'll now have to share mummy much sooner than anticipated.
Sad for DD and DH because if I have awful hyperemesis again they'll be missing out on a mummy and a wife.
Sad for this poor baby because I didn't want it just yet.
Sad for myself because I've just started my dream job working on a year long project that I now won't be able to see through.
Please tell me it's going to be ok and it's just shock that's making me feel like this.
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Catdogcat · 10/01/2017 16:08
I have kids 14 months apart. They have grown up close together and at 16+15 they are still close (2xds)
2xdd 15 months apart now 10+11 really close too.
I bf all of them and used it as a chance to have sofa snuggles with the older one too! Fav film /colouring /jigsaws. Apart from the job situ you are def over thinking everything!
Congratulations BTW!! 
It will be fine once the initial shock wears off.
It is a very busy time to start with when you have two little ones so close together, but it all shakes down with time.
Do not assume that the hyperemesis will hit again - I had 3 pregnancies and they were all totally different from each other; as did my DDs.
You will love this new little one just the same and your DD will gain in social skills and fun. And it does get all the pregnancies over in one fell swoop!
Congratulations on this new life starting.
as a fellow hypermesis suffer I get it- it's a scary thought that it might be about to hit again.
BUT you say you did want to do it again- just not yet. So deep breath. It will he ok, you and your DH will adapt and cope you CAN do this.
It will be ok. And don't feel guilty for feeling the way you do. I think it's perfectly normal to not quite know how to feel when your life takes a direction you never thought it would.
I was done having DC. I had two, nearly two years apart, and I've found parenting hard during the early years. Our circumstances mean that we just couldn't afford for me to go back to work (with childcare costs etc) and I've really struggled being at home. DS, my youngest, was due to start preschool this month (and has) and I was so looking forward to having just a little time to myself. I was planning how I was going to get the house sorted, look into volunteering so that I have something on my CV when DS goes to school etc And then in September I found out I was expecting DC3. It took a while for me to wrap my head around it. Having to shift my focus on to a different path hasn't been easy.
I have been excited and I've, mostly, wrapped my head around it now!
And try not to worry about the age gap, there are infinite age gap possibilities and all of them have advantages and disadvantages. And it's very common when expecting DC2 (whether planned or not) to worry about not having enough time with your eldest, or not loving the youngest as much. But you do and you will. Things will be different, but that doesn't mean they're worse or that your DD is missing out
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