Hello out there.
We've recently found out that we are expecting (6 weeks potentially). Back in Jan we came off the pill to get ready for when we where... ready. We've been pretty relaxed, not actively trying, but agreeing that if something happened then we'd be good with it. We have a house, businesses, a steady happy life. I'm 31, he's 33.
But, now something has happened. And our first reaction was a very nervous smile, but a smile none-the-less. Then - not so much. And its been 4 days. And neither of us are jumping for joy. I asked DH if it was fear, but he noted that he doesn't feel scared of being a parent, but simply that he loves our lives, and I have to agree. It's almost like: if it ain't broke, don't fix it. We love impromptu dinners out. We both run our own businesses and find that that comes first for both of us, though it is stressful.
DH commented that it feels like we would be adding another stress to our lives when we are already tired. Again that is a worry. Obviously a child changes your life - and we love our lives right now. Why change it?
We've seen family and friends have the joy of children - but also the tear-your-hair out, over tired, hard work that goes with it! And suddenly - we are asking ourselves, if we want children at all?
We both agree if we have them, we would love them, and support one another. But then we are also looking at the road less traveled... a life of exploring, loving our dogs, weekends away - hiking adventures, and spoiling our nephews (and then going home to our quiet house afterwards). Are we too selfish for kids?
We are literally stuck in the middle of not not wanting kids, but also not really wanting them. If we're not utterly thrilled (and we've noticed, many people are when they find out), should we really be parents?
Any kind advice on your first thoughts would be much appreciated. I appear to be crying at everything at the moment. I cry at not having them, and having them!
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Feeling lost Just found out and our reaction was not what we thought
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Hekabe · 16/11/2016 11:05
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