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Time to tell?!

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Littlemisssugarplum88 · 30/10/2016 14:59

Just out of curiosity, when did you tell your immediate family about your pregnancy?!
I know it's completely up to the individual but I just wondered :) xx

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Naschkatze · 30/10/2016 15:11

Just over 10 weeks. I'd had two scans already though (due to previous problems), I would have waited until after 12 week scan otherwise.

Littlemisssugarplum88 · 30/10/2016 15:13

We've agreed to tell our family on Xmas day when I'll be just over 12 weeks. It's our first and I'm finding really hard not telling my parents xx

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welshweasel · 30/10/2016 15:14

We did IVF and our family knew so told them as soon as we had a positive test.

drinkyourmilk · 30/10/2016 15:14

My parents knew the day I got a positive test. Same as pil.
Probably a different situation though as this is an ivf pregnancy - so it would have been weird to not say one way or the other.

PoldarksBreeches · 30/10/2016 15:16

Right away. I saw no reason not to. I had a late mc with my first pregnancy so didn't have any sense of waiting for 12 weeks to be safer.

Passmethecrisps · 30/10/2016 15:17

Just told my inlaws - am 6 weeks. Will tell my parents when i see them in two weeks.

My feeling is that if i would share bad news with them then I should share the good.

I will likely tell my best friend at the same time as my parents.

Everyone else has to wait until the scan

Littlemisssugarplum88 · 30/10/2016 15:18

I had been under a fertility nurse for about 6 months which both our parents knew about, and knew I was taking metformin to try and stabilise my hormones.
They obviously know it could happen any time but my DP is adamant we can't tell them until 12 weeks whereas I'm finding it hard waiting so long xx

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CharminglyGawky · 30/10/2016 15:21

My parents were told within days of a positive test, mil told a couple of weeks after that, basically the next time we saw them after the BFP, it just happened that I tested midweek and my parents were staying that weekend. Mil was visiting a few weeks later so that is when she was told.

Nobody else knew until after my 12 week scan.

CharminglyGawky · 30/10/2016 15:22

I wouldn't have wanted to wait to tell my mum. I suffered from morning sickness quite badly from about 6 weeks and to be honest I needed her support!

OhTheRoses · 30/10/2016 15:23

Lots of miscarriages although dc now grown up. 12 weeks for family and close friends, 14-16 weeks for work and everyone else. One of the mc's was 17 weeks - the first baby so after that no-one told before 18 weeks for us.

SkyLucy · 30/10/2016 15:38

I told my parents at 5 weeks - I started bleeding, my partner was away, and I needed a lift to hospital (and lots of TLC!) Fortunately everything was fine, and I found it really helpful that they knew - I developed horrendous morning sickness from 7-14 weeks and they were a great support - had to tell my boss too, because I couldn't manage the commute to work.

We told DH's family after the 12-week scan. They're not in the UK, so much easier to hide!

I think it totally depends on how your pregnancy goes, and the relationship you have with your family.

Congrats!

Littlemisssugarplum88 · 30/10/2016 15:38

I haven't started with sickness yet, but I am really close to my mum and it's horrible keeping it from her, especially as this will be my parents first grandchild xx

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SunnyInMay · 30/10/2016 15:40

Close family (parents, siblings) after I had a private scan at 9 weeks. Everyone else after 12 weeks.

Littlemisssugarplum88 · 30/10/2016 15:41

And the majority of my DPs family live in different countries with work commitments so we probably aren't going to be able to tell his side face to face which will be hard xx

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ConvincingLiar · 30/10/2016 15:49

It's entirely personal. Unless I actively needed support, I'd hold off telling anyone other than partner.

MoonlightMojitos · 30/10/2016 15:52

I told my mum straight away, dp's mum about 6 weeks, and 2 best friends pretty much straight away too (well, the next time I spoke with them). I had a mc last time and figured I'd tell them if anything did go wrong again so they might as well know I was pg in the first place. Thats my rule that if I would want them for a support if i had a mc then I can tell them that Im pg. I will be telling colleagues at the work Xmas party (when I'll be about 13 weeks) as I won't be able to hide not drinking with an open bar!

GinIsIn · 30/10/2016 16:08

We told my mum straight away, and my PILs a few weeks later...... and the PILs bloody blabbed it to all and sundry so that was the rest taken care of!

Also had to tell work at 9 weeks as
I was having horrible overnight sickness and just wasn't functioning!

Ilovenannyplum · 30/10/2016 16:10

We told our parents on Christmas Day, I was only 5 weeks but it was nice to give them a card with 'from x, x and bump'

We told the rest of the world on Valentine's Day after we had our 12 week scan that morning

thecatsarecrazy · 30/10/2016 16:13

I felt so rough from about 6 weeks so only lasted til 9 before we told people

Ilovewillow · 30/10/2016 16:16

Congratulations!! We had IVF for both of our children so they knew each step of the way! Everyone else about 16 weeks.

RasperryInAMelon · 30/10/2016 17:57

Called my parents there and then at 6+5 to tell them!

divadee · 30/10/2016 18:43

My best friend knew straight away as this one was a surprise and Himself was out and I got a bit panicked!!! My daughter and My mum knew about 7 weeks I think and mil about 10 weeks. Everyone else was about 13 weeks.

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haveacupoftea · 30/10/2016 18:50

I must be the only person who told all and sundry well before the 12 week scan

Whatsername17 · 30/10/2016 19:03

Immediately for babies number 1 and 3. For number 2, I fell pregnant this time last year and we wanted to tell parents on Christmas day too. We went for a scan on the 23rd of December hoping to give them scan photos inside a christmas card and discovered our baby had died. We ended up telling them that there was a baby, but it had died and I spent Christmas waiting to miscarry. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be a complete downer but I wish I'd never bigged up the announcement so much in my head because my world came crashing down when it all went wrong. I needed their support but having to tell them after the fact was awful because they were in shock. And it was Christmas. My advice would be to tell the people you need support from when ever you feel most comfortable. Sorry again, because it happened to me doesn't mean it will happen to you or anyone else, I just wish someone had warned me. Good luck and congratulations x

SquedgieBeckenheim · 30/10/2016 19:11

Parents were told at 11 weeks, when they came for a visit. I was feeling awful so would not have been able to hide it for the weekend! It was easy to not tell them before as we didn't see them. In laws were told a few days later over the phone.
Rest of family (including siblings) had to wait till after the 12 week scan.

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