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Just a really tough day - coping strategies?

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Vida32 Thu 06-Oct-16 10:22:59

I'm really struggling today and I don't really know why. I am some time between 9 and 10 weeks (LMP says one thing, early scan at 6/7 says another) and I woke up feeling completely and utterly overwhelmed. I am working from home and not getting much done and have been in tears this morning. I'm so worried about everything - I'm worried I'm not good enough at my job; I'm worried that I've had a mmc and my baby has died; I'm worried that I'm lazy and self-indulgent. I have a huge backlog of stuff to get through for work (some of it my fault, some of it to do with wider issues) and I'm just sat here frozen.

I have had all-day nausea and lots of aversions but no actual sickness. I've also had insomnia but actually slept well last night for the first time in a while. I did have to go to see a consultant yesterday and found out I will have to inject myself with fragmin every day for the rest of the pregnancy because of previous history of clots but I have been feeling quite calm about that. I don't know what has happened.

I'm an anxious person at the best of times and I think my DH is a bit overwhelmed by how much support I need these days. I have also had depression in the past and came off my medication to ttc. I don't want to go down that route again during pregnancy.

Does anyone have any coping strategies for when you just feel really overwhelmed?

Diamondsandpears Thu 06-Oct-16 10:27:09

Baby steps. Try not to think of too much at once. Get a glass of water or cup of your favourite hotels drink and tackle one thing first. Speak to your MW if you are still feeling like this later.

StorminaBcup Thu 06-Oct-16 10:32:19

How are you at mindfulness? Can you spend 10 or so minutes just focusing on your breathing to bring you back down? Next prioritise your workload- what's the most urgent? Do that one piece and then have a break and move on to the next.
I've had two mc (one missed) so I understand your anxiety. Take each day as it comes.
Keep hydrated (make sure it has a high water content - not fizzy or high caffeinated drinks) and snack little and often to try to ease nausea.
Go for a walk at lunch, you might not feel like it but the fresh air will help.

One of the key things with anxiety is catastrophising - piling on more and more problems until it becomes unmanageable. It's not - work out what you can actually do something about and leave the rest. You can cope with this.

skybluepinkish Thu 06-Oct-16 11:53:53

I'm 35 weeks now and I've worried lots too - its normal to worry and from what my friends with children have said you always worry a bit. I found it easier to focus on each stage (baby steps like Diamondsandpears suggested) - first keep my focus on getting through to first trimester, then to week 20 etc.

The nausea and lack of sleep wont help with the stress but I found this cleared up after the first trimester.

I've found when I'm starting to let it all get to me giving myself a break and something different to focus on helps massively - for me this has been everything from a shopping trip with a friend to a starting a craft project.

If you are struggling speak to your midwife - they are very good.

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