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Gosh. How am I so knackered at only 26 weeks??!

(23 Posts)
NinaNeener Tue 14-Jun-16 10:26:09

This is my 2nd. Last time I was working full time and I had spd. I managed. I really don't remember being this bad last time.

This time I'm a SAHM and have spd again already. I've an 18 month old. But tbh he's not so terrible. He's a nice lad! He can play on his own for ages and so I am able to just sit there with a cup of tea watching him. He sleeps through.

Yeah he's very very busy so you're watching him all the time but he's not temperamental if you know what I mean. He's asleep by 7.30.

So why am I absolutely FUCKED???!

Seriously. DH has just brought DS out for a walk and I am going to vacuum whilst they're gone as DS is scared of the vacuum and I'm lying on the bed, completely shattered! I slept ok last night (or as well as you can with spd), didn't get up till 7.30, I take vitamins and eat fine....WTF? ?

I walk up the stairs and have to sit down on the bed to catch my breath! Getting dressed I have to pause between socks! I brought DS to the playground yesterday and had to have a lie down when I got home!! This is not normal!

DH says "well last time you probably had a lot of lie ins on your days off to recharge and now you never have a day off" but I honestly don't think I lazed about that much.

And as I said the toddler is good and DH is super hands on so it's not like I'm struggling on my own....

At this rate I don't know how I can last another bloody 3 months! How???!

RNBrie Tue 14-Jun-16 10:30:20

It's really hard!!! I'm 39 weeks with dc3 and can barely get off the sofa... Midwives say nice things about accepting changes to your body and resting when you can but I just feel fucked too!! Dreading actual labour, I don't have the energy to push a baby out!!

I have no advice other than to try and eat well and sleep when you can. Lower your parenting/cleaning standards and try not to lose your shit too often I've been losing mine a lot

Good luck brew

NinaNeener Tue 14-Jun-16 10:45:41

I vacuumed. A triumph! The spd is much worse than last time as I found I had to vacuum by sitting on the edges of the bed and vacuuming like I was rowing a boat. blush

But not sure that accounts for the general exhaustion. Going to drag myself downstairs to make myself a cup of tea and literally having to force myself to get up and do it. This is bananas!!! shock

deuscat Tue 14-Jun-16 10:50:02

Your iron levels might be too low?

NinaNeener Tue 14-Jun-16 10:59:45

I've been taking Pregnacare all along though? Surely that would prevent that? I dunno tbh.

RNBrie Tue 14-Jun-16 11:08:33

You could still need extra iron, I had to take extra iron with dc2 despite pregnacare vitamins. When is your next midwife appt?

NinaNeener Tue 14-Jun-16 11:22:50

Not till the 1st July but I happen to be having my smear test with my GP on Thurs and could ask her to take bloods whilst I'm there. Never occurred to me but it would be great for it to be something fixable!

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup Tue 14-Jun-16 11:26:32

I was like this with baby 3. I thought it was just the SPD but when it got to the point I didn't even have the energy to stand long enough to make a cup of tea my Husband marched me to the hospital. It turned out I had an under active thyroid. By the time they realised I only had a few weeks to go so the tablets didn't have a chance to fully kick in. They helped a little though, and if it is that you have a good few weeks to let the tablets do their job. Good luck I do not envy you! X

NinaNeener Tue 14-Jun-16 11:48:56

They checked out my thyroid with my booking in bloods cos I have a family history but it came back fine. But worth saying to her in Thursday anyway.

The frustrating thing is I can't even take iron between now and Thurs as it'll throw my bloods off! I did manage to make a cup of tea and put DS down for a nap so am patting myself rather pathetically on the back. blush

Rubberduck2 Tue 14-Jun-16 12:30:18

I think it maybe a good idea to go to see your gp. Shortness of breath can be signs of other issues totally unrelated to the pregnancy!!! I would go to rule anything else out!!

Lilliana Tue 14-Jun-16 12:36:07

No help but I'm exactly the same apart from my 18 month old is 3. Everything is just exhausting and I'm only working 2 days a week instead of FT. I don't know how I'm going to manage the next few months. Much sympathy flowers

boscros1 Tue 14-Jun-16 18:31:58

I was the same, and my iron levels are low. Took to 24 weeks to get it diagnosed, then after 8 wks of supplements my iron levels weren't rising and I got more tests and I have a vit b12 deficiency, so the iron wasn't absorbing. You know when it's not normal, this I my 3 and I never felt this bad before.

NinaNeener Tue 14-Jun-16 18:48:01

Oh wow! Were you taking multivits as well? I must check the box to see if V B12 is included in mine.

Haven't felt much better today but feel lighter just knowing there may be a reason. Poor DS watched a bit too much Cbeebies! blush

mayhew Tue 14-Jun-16 19:33:54

It can be hormonal. I felt worse at 22 than 32 weeks.

NotWithoutMyMerkin Tue 14-Jun-16 20:16:52

I'm 25 weeks with a 2.2 year old and am struggling this week with total and utter exhaustion and feeling generally ill

NotWithoutMyMerkin Tue 14-Jun-16 20:20:27

Posted too soon. Iron levels hadn't crossed my mind - it's a good point

DD isn't sleeping through yet and bedtimes take a while, but I am getting a decent daytime nap with her. Was just wondering today how I will do another three months so you have my complete sympathy

Jenjen85 Tue 14-Jun-16 21:25:42

Exactly the same here im 29 weeks and totally exhausted. DD is 2.11yrs and good as gold for me and lets me have a rest on the bed while she plays on the tablet but im exhausted. I work part time in the mornings then home by 1.30. Last night i was asleep by 8.30 and had managed a 30min nap in the afternoon too. SPD is a killer and has been waking me up in the night plus the recent heat too. Sympathy all round

PickledLilly Thu 16-Jun-16 22:36:45

Very similar position, 27 weeks with a neatly 3yo. Feel utterly shit. SPD is seriously affecting my sleep but levels of exhaustion seem extreme. Will ask midwife about iron levels when I see her I think.

bobbinpop Thu 16-Jun-16 22:41:52

Ok good.... I'm not alone! 27 weeks and floored by knackeredness!

bobbinpop Thu 16-Jun-16 22:42:03

And it's my 3rd!

NinaNeener Fri 17-Jun-16 08:17:54

I had my bloods done yesterday, iron and thyroid. The results will be interesting. Tbh if they're normal I'll be a bit peeved as that means I just have to put up with it!

Was in bed at 8pm last night....blush

PickledLilly Fri 17-Jun-16 20:49:22

It does seem daft, last time I know I didn't have a toddler to look after but I was working full time. This time I'm only working three days a week but I feel so much worse. I just don't seem to have the energy to do anything. The house is an absolute sty.

dylsmimi Fri 17-Jun-16 21:14:55

Glad it's not just me! 26 weeks and I fell asleep on the sofa this afternoon while ds played the recorder right next to me!!!
Friday is my tired day where even the walk to school knacker's me. I think because I spend the rest of the week 'keeping going' when I have a day off work and slow down a bit I just stop!

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