I'm planning on telling my parents this weekend that I am pregnant (currently 8+3). Should be straightforward and happy times, I realise, but a number of complicating factors are making me just dread it.
The father and I are no longer together. We had a long, messy breakup which made my parents hate him (we are really close, and even though I'm 32 they are still protective!) for how he treated me - which was very badly for some time. For a couple of months after we kind of broke up, we were still very stupidly sleeping together, which no-one knew about (hardly the kind of thing you discuss with people!) and it was during that time that I fell pregnant.
My parents know that a couple of years ago I got pregnant (same guy) and had an abortion because we weren't ready, and that I was devastated by it. This time round it was just plain stupidity, we had drunk sex and I thought I wasn't due to ovulate for a week or so, but clearly I was wrong. Last time I was on the pill, so we were just incredibly unlucky. I am also divorced, after an ill-advised young marriage, so they have been through that with me as well.
I'm just so disappointed and distressed that what is supposed to be such a happy thing - this will be their first grandchild - is tainted by how imperfect the situation around it is. I'm worried that they'll be disappointed in me for making such a stupid mistake, worried about me for what my future may look like, and generally disappointed that their first grandchild isn't a more joyous experience. I know it's not really about them, but they're my parents and I love them and I just can't bear to see the hurt in their eyes when they feel like they have somehow failed as parents - which mum told me years after my divorce was the case.
Does anyone have any experience of a similar situation? What happened? Any advice? Will they just be so happy that they're having a grandchild that they won't worry about the situation around it?!
All advice and encouragement welcome!!
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How do I tell my parents?!
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Littleredhead1983 · 24/03/2016 10:56
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