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Surrounded by people sailing through pregnancy

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strangerjo Sun 31-Jan-16 22:20:26

All the various pregnancy classes I've gone to seem to be full of ladies sailing through pregnancy with no symptoms. And the women I know equally have had no problems (e.g running 10ks at 38 weeks, going to the gym throughout pregnancy, totally relaxed about everything). I have had sore joints, depression, anxiety, problems with blood pressure, fainting, cervical stitch and other stuff since fairly early on. I'm trying not to compare myself but it's difficult. Anyone else feel like this?

Katarzyna79 Sun 31-Jan-16 22:36:38

op i sympathise i dont think those folks are the norm.maybe thats just positive side they havent told u negatives.

you sound like youre having a tough time i think thats more normal. Ive been feeling lonely husband and i are so busy doing caring duties for elders and our 4 kids theres no time for us. Ive been feeling really low too like i dont want to go on anymore,but something drives me forward i am usually overly optimistic.

I got sore joints but ive had an arthritic problem prior to pregnancy so ive learnt to suck it up doesnt go away. I got a varicose vein nevrr had that before feels like a wire twisting under my knee cap, makes leg bit numb too. Midwife says common nothinh to do cept rest raise legs,fat chance right?

my morning sickness just nausea and gagging minus vomit has returned now 26weeks, happy times. Food tastes rubbish in evening. Always hungry stomach rumbles nomatter what i eat, so im miserable

Severe heartburn even on bland food only relief milk for few secs i drink it. Mint sweets are heaven on throat, i need mint tea next,usually hate mint.

serious fatigue ive always hadthat now just get it earlier in day usually straight after breakfast .

Dont worry you are complety normal. i can just aboutanahae stauts several.times day forget a 10k run whilst pregnant

Katarzyna79 Sun 31-Jan-16 22:37:59

*manage stairs

Needcaffeinenow Sun 31-Jan-16 22:42:38

I am 22 weeks and def not sailing through either. It can be upsetting, I have had so many people tell me about their wonderful pregnancies and be a bit like hmm at me struggling. But, I think it is important not to compare ourselves to others as it just can make you feel so crap! I know that is hard though. I have just focused on taking it easy and pampering myself. I go for a walk when I can but not stress about it, give my body the rest it needs. Just focus on you. I know how annoying it can be though. My neigbour who is 6 weeks ahead of me is still running & asked me to join her one day!!

NotSpeaking Sun 31-Jan-16 22:46:49

My first pregnancy was so easy. No problems at all. My third has been pure hell. I've enjoyed one month of it. Don't let it get to you x

PoppieD Sun 31-Jan-16 22:51:59

Mine has been hell from the start- can't remember what it is like to not be in pain, nauseous or throwing up.

intothebreach Sun 31-Jan-16 22:52:56

I hated being pregnant, I was so sick and tired and ill both times. Like you, I felt surrounded by people who just sailed through it. What's worse, I felt really criticised for not being able to just buck up my ideas and somehow think myself out of being so poorly.

It was all worth it when I held my babies though. ...

MadrigalElectromotive Sun 31-Jan-16 23:01:27

Mine has been utter hell with hyperemesis, high blood pressure, fainting, hip pain and sciatica. I look and feel dreadful. Some people do seem to sail through but rest assured, there are others who feel similar to you!

Quodlibet Sun 31-Jan-16 23:06:37

I've been too nauseous; no way could I have gone out on a boat.<joke>

Personally I've spent a lot of time pretending to feel fine when I feel awful and probably over-compensating so as not to let on I'm up the duff before 12 week scan. It was a huge relief once I could tell people and say 'actually I feel rough as fuck today, and had to excuse myself to be sick during the last meeting'.

I guess what I'm saying is that lots of people may be struggling more than we let on; but it's considered ungrateful to 'moan' when you are pregnant so people rarely do it in public.

Scoopmuckdizzy Sun 31-Jan-16 23:21:46

I hated it first two times. Was determined to enjoy this pregnancy- I'm 19 weeks now and still sick as a dog and waiting for that all elusive burst of energy.

Cornberry Sun 31-Jan-16 23:56:41

My pregnancy was monstrous. I was signed off work sick for four months and I basically got every symptom going. Could barely walk by the end, topped off with a nightmare delivery. I hate those women who don't seem to have any effects except a bump. They don't know how lucky they are!! The only thing I can say is that once it's over it's hard to believe the state you were in! Good luck smile

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Sunbeam1112 Mon 01-Feb-16 01:29:12

Op you have my sympathies. This is my third pregnancy and by far my hardest. I had several severe kidney infections, abnorminal smear so been getting checked up throughout. I have pelvic girdle pain which is pretty bad walking around but got no choice with the other two DC. I had flu 3weeks and caught another bug off one of my DC. Im 32 weeks and exhausted. I just want to have some night nurse. Some people are so lucky when it comes to pregnancy and others not so much. Its all worth it in the end tho ladies x

Holly34 Mon 01-Feb-16 02:25:42

I don't think sailing through any pregnancy is quite possible... unless your a yoga guru! hmm What helped me a lot after 20 weeks of feeling crap I started to do my hair and make up everyday and going out! It made a huge difference! Try to make yourself feel better, might do wonders thanksthanks

MrsSparkles Mon 01-Feb-16 07:28:50

I sailed through my last pregnancy - I barely even knew I was pregnant - no sickness, no aches and pains, nothing except a very small bump!

This time I'm still being sick at 25 weeks, exhausted, aching. It definitely is all worth it, but it does feel like a long slog to get there! I'm finding that eating healthily is helping, and trying to get out for some exercise every day, just a short walk, but I do feel better!

PeppaPigStinks Wed 03-Feb-16 09:18:14

I tel myself a horrendous pregnancy makes the new born sleep deprived early days feel like a walk in the park smile

LouLou030783 Wed 03-Feb-16 09:32:26

Anyone that says they enjoy pregnancy is a liar lol, don't compare yourself to others OP but they ones are only showing u the positive side they aren't letting on to the fact they have a pile of grapes hangin out their bum

PickledLilly Wed 03-Feb-16 09:39:41

I hate being pregnant. It's horrid and last time it was like pregnancy bingo, I got virtually every fuck awful symptom going topped off by an awful birth. I'm only 7 weeks with number 2 but I'm already grumpy, nauseous and tired. Glowy shiny pregnant people should fuck the fuck off and go and be glowy somewhere else.

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