Petty but I'm so upset with DH

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

I'm 29 weeks and feeling really shitty. I feel really fat, my face is chubby and spotty and I am uncomfortable all the time.

It was my birthday on Saturday-In November I'd told DH that I didn't think we should buy each other Xmas presents (saving money for baby) but asked him to save some money for my birthday. He bought me a Xmas gift in spite of our discussion.

On Saturday we got up and he said happy birthday but that was it. No card, no gift, nothing. I feel so undervalued and fed up and I just can't stop feeling pissed off with him about it, to the point where I'm actually being quite nasty to him (I'm usually a softy!). I spent my birthday crying and feeling completely miserable. He's usually really lovely with me so this is quite out of character.

I feel like I'm going to be annoyed with him forever-but it's such a petty thing to be cross about! I'm not sure what I wanted from posting this-just a rant really!

[fletchybear]

I don't think you're being petty at all. I'd go absolutely mad (I am very hormonal). It's one day in the year, you're feeling crap and just wanted to be s little spoilt. Ring interflora and order yourself some lovely flowers, run a bath have a pamper and make yourself feel special. Then text him and tell him you don't just want a special dinner you want special dessert. HAPPY BIRTHDAY

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

Thanks fletchy-your reply made me tear up a bit!

[fletchybear]

Argh sweetheart, the good thing about being pregnant is we can cry as much as we want and blame it on hormones :)
I'm still fuming at my OH over his snoring. I mean how selfish can he be, why the hell hasn't he found a cure
Explain to him how it made you feel (you'd be upset even if not pregnant) If he genuinely thought he was doing the right thing, then only give him a hard time for a couple of weeks!! If he was being thoughtless. Make his life hell!!!!
But enjoy you're birthday week and don't let anything else spoil it xx

[MotherKat]

I think he probably thought he screwed up over Christmas and over corrected.
However I'm also heavily pregnant so he's obviously a bumeyes.
Happy birthday OP xx

[ammature]

It was my birthday on Saturday too. I think your DH was really wrong here. A card and small gift wouldn't have taken much.

[Jw35]

What a knob! Happy birthday

[Jibberjabberjooo]

Have you spoken to him about it?

[ThePug]

Sympathies. I turned 30 in May, was still reeling from a miscarriage a few weeks earlier and got no card or present from DH! Spent most of the day crying. I'm happily now almost 34 weeks pregnant. There are bigger things to worry about than birthday cards & presents in the grand scheme of things, but I know how shitty it can make you feel.

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

Thanks everyone for your lovely posts!

We have spoken about it but he maintains that he's not in the wrong and only said he's sorry that I'm upset. It is very unusual for him to be such a knob-but he has been!

Ammature happy birthday!

Thepug- men are very thoughtless-I'm sorry for your loss but so pleased you're 34 weeks now - I hope pregnancy is treating you well

Motherkat I'm adopting bumeyes as my new saying

Thanks again all

[sepa]

Me an OH rarely do birthday and Christmas presents but if you usually do then you have every reason to be upset!
Just buy yourself something on his credit card

[Bearsinmotion]

How is he not in the wrong if you had asked him to do something?!

DP and I have just bought a house and have very little money. We agreed no Christmas presents, but his birthday is 28 December, so I made sure he had birthday presents from me and the DC, because it's a whole different thing.

[BoBo90]

Being a man he probably thought he was doing the right thing not wasting money so you can save it for the baby. He probably remembers that discussion from Christmas but forgot the particulars - men are useless at following instructions.

However remember you are hormonal and going to be over sensitive to things so try not to let it bother you. If he has been good all through the pregnancy so far then just remember that because I'm sure there have been days when hormones haven't made it easy for either of you

[kate7590]

If you'd agreed on no presents for xmas and he got you something and you were annoyed because of the money thing, then I can see why he didn't get you anything for your birthday TBH…unless he was willing to be in bad books for 'wasting money' again.
So he didn't get you anything for birthday so as to save money for baby as previously agreed, and he gets in trouble for that too?
Seems like he can't do right?

Hubby and I never mentioned anything about no presents…but for my first ever mothers day I didn't get any gift/ card/ nothing… I was a little upset by that.