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Constantly Worrying

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JaneS16 Mon 21-Dec-15 20:52:50

I'm currently 24 + 2 and I can't stop worrying. I've convinced myself that my baby is going to come early. I worry all the time and it's becoming a bit time consuming.....sound crazy. This is my first baby so it's all new to me. Every little pain I panic. I've been getting a lot of discharge which I've been told is normal but from Googling I've convinced myself that my cervix is open 🙈 When I have asked my midwife questions she just says oh it's normal with no other explanation.
Also should I be keeping record of how much baby moves at 24 weeks. Another worry....he either moves loads or not a lot. I've been told by one professional at least least 10 times a day and another to not be silly and worry about that so early on.
I'm obviously a worrier so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks x

Nousername2015 Mon 21-Dec-15 21:19:46

I know exactly where you're coming from, and I'm still there at 36 weeks actually (currently convinced I have gd and pre-eclampsia!). Talking out my fears with a professional has definitely helped, do you have anyone you can speak to about the worrying? It's better not to google things, however I have been which has honestly not helped anything one bit - someone on here totally nailed it when they said 'if you turn over enough rocks you will find a scorpion'. It's as if you need to validate being worried.
I've had discharge for this entire pregnancy and made it this far, discharge is completely normal. I was also getting het up about movement but looking back the difference between 24 weeks and 28 weeks is huge, 28 weeks is when they ask you to keep more of an eye on it but you should always speak to your midwife if you have any concerns. Best of luck to you, look after yourself.

Nousername2015 Mon 21-Dec-15 21:24:21

The 10 movements thing is also old advice, please don't follow that. It's more about a pattern, when baby is more active at various times of the day or night. The count the kicks website gives good advice, but I did find it heightened anxiety for me - with good reason though, the message they are putting across can't be emphasised enough.

Champagneformyrealfriends Tue 22-Dec-15 14:24:23

I'm 24 + 2 too! I worry a lot-Try and trust your mw. Anxiety seems to have come hand in hand with pregnancy for me xx

Iammad Tue 22-Dec-15 14:45:40

I think the pattern of movements is quite misleading tbh.
If your baby is spontaneously active and has always been that way then that is there pattern.
Doesn't have to be 20 kicks in the morning,14 in at 12 etc although if that is what your baby does then that is there pattern.
If you normaly have felt your baby and haven't felt anything in a few hours then after 24 weeks you need to phone either dau or maternity.
The 10 kicks a day has been stopped (even though I have still been told this by consultants) which is quite worring tbh.
Also never go against your intuition, or if you are worried have a bad feeling etc.
And don't let any one feel you are wasting there time.

Nousername2015 Tue 22-Dec-15 16:48:44

I picked up a book from The Works today that I've seen recommended on another thread, it's called The Worry Cure by Robert Leahy. If you're planning to head to a town centre at all over the next few weeks could be worth popping in to see if they have it? Was only £3 so I figure if I don't get on with it it's not the end of the world. I've never attempted a self help book before so must be desperate!

Loki17 Wed 23-Dec-15 07:30:49

I'm pregnant for the second time. I went through all of those worries with my first and I'm going through them again now. The only advice I can give you is to try and focus on positive things. Do not read sad stories about babies in the newspaper - as terrible as they are, they make your worries worse. When I was pregnant with dd, Lily Allen lost her second child, as did a parent of a kid I taught who was due at the same time as me. I sobbed reading the article and convinced myself it was some sort of sign that something was wrong. It wasn't, obviously. I worried nonetheless. This time, I'm trying to avoid negative thoughts and tragic stories. Of course, my heart breaks for the people experiencing the tragedy, but I know I can't cope with reading about it. Stay away from Dr Google too. Good luck flowers

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