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Furious on my friends behalf

(19 Posts)
RockerMummy184 Tue 22-Sep-15 09:59:54

I know this has been done a thousand times before but a friend of mine (we used to be very close but drifted apart as we got older, moved, etc) had her first baby yesterday.

3 people announced it on Facebook before she did!

I know I'm probably being hormonal and ridiculous but I'm so angry on her behalf I cried. I also know she's too polite to say anything. The utter twunts.

Sorry....rant over!

Junosmum Tue 22-Sep-15 10:17:42

I'd be fuming!

newbian Tue 22-Sep-15 10:22:21

I hate this. Not as extreme but my extended in-laws started posting to our Facebook walls about my pregnancy when I was about 12 weeks and hadn't told many friends. I'm going to tell my parents in law that under NO CIRCUMSTANCES can they do the same with the birth.

Sighing Tue 22-Sep-15 10:24:58

I'd say something to be honest. Social media is clearly a blindspot for social etiquette for some.
Posting that you're glad they're excited but were looking forward to the official announcement from the parents, whose perogative it is. But then a lot of people think I am a miserable cow!

99percentchocolate Tue 22-Sep-15 10:26:17

My cousin was asked not to post anything about the birth beforehand (and I repeated this several times on Facebook in the last few weeks for everyone). The twunt posted not only that did had arrived, but her full name too (having got it from my mum, who again reminded her not to post anything on Facebook). We had close family members we hadn't been able to get hold of (they were in another country) who found out from her. She just wanted the attention.

99percentchocolate Tue 22-Sep-15 10:28:29


Skiptonlass Tue 22-Sep-15 10:30:57

I'd be furious too. sad

When we got married we asked friends and family not to put anything with us in it on FB - I was pleasantly surprised when it worked (vindicated in my choice of friends...)

Some people have no boundaries...

60sname Tue 22-Sep-15 10:35:21

So rude. I don't think any of our family and friends would do this but will be locking my wall down anyway.

Red193 Tue 22-Sep-15 11:31:50

I will go ballistic if anyone does this to ask! Will actually be changing my cover photo and profile picture to read "if you hear I have gone into labour/had the baby then please refrain from posting anything on socials media until DH and I make the announcement ourselves"

Our friends were very good at not posting our wedding pictures on social media after a polite request in our invites so hoping for the same this time.

However some members of my family believe social media is the best way to tell everyone. Found out about the birth of my cousins kid on Facebook as no one bothered to tell us and now she is pregnant again and 2 weeks ahead of me she announced that on Facebook without telling any of us. Needless to say we told everyone except her about ours!

gillybeandramaqueen Tue 22-Sep-15 11:46:56

Hi Rocker... xx still nothing doing then for you? I am having an awful time with OH... anyway ...

Yeah when I have birth to my wee boy 2 years ago my OH's sister posted all the details on fb before I got the chance to do so and hadn't gotten a moment to let very close relatives know who found out through her...

I was particularly livid because she named my OH and baby in FULL but I was referred to as 'his partner'... fucking livid!!!!

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Tue 22-Sep-15 12:10:34

So thoughtless!

gillybean not even a namecheck, thanks SIL!

sepa Tue 22-Sep-15 13:45:39

I would be furious. That is up to the parents to chose. A lot of people don't know I am pregnant as I have banned any mention of on Facebook (mainly due to a close family fall out) friends and family know that if anything to do with my pregnancy, birth or any details regarding sex, name, photos etc get posted on Facebook then they will be deleted from my friends list. I know that it sounds a bit ott on my side but the family fall out is big and I think that it should always be a parent who decides what information is shared on social media!

PallasCat Tue 22-Sep-15 17:38:06

I'd be RAGING. Totally out of order. Tend to put my wall on lockdown in the run up to major events, will definitely be doing so pre-birth.

NoArmaniNoPunani Tue 22-Sep-15 19:53:53

My mum announced my pregnancy on FB when I was 9 weeks gone, 4days after I'd had an emergency scan due to bleeding.

RockerMummy184 Tue 22-Sep-15 19:58:45

Glad it's not just me who thinks it's unacceptable. Almost posted in AIBU bit thought I'd get flamed and told it was none of my business! Haha.

NoArmani that's shocking!
gilly it sounds like being a total cock runs in that family! wink (my phone corrected that to 'cocktail'! How polite!)

wizardsleeve69 Tue 22-Sep-15 21:39:47

Let me be the first to say since everyone is too nice that you are over reacting and it is none of your business. Consider this right, she's in hospital and facebook is the last thing on her mind. You know that does happen.... And friends come to visit her and post on their walls. BIG FREAKING DEAL.

Fourfifthsof Wed 23-Sep-15 00:04:45

A friend for this to us without thinking and I deleted the post while in recovery from my ELCS! I thought I would go mad but I caught it before anyone had seen it so no harm done.

PlopsyWhopsy Wed 23-Sep-15 00:15:37

Absolutely hate this for any announcement, it just smacks of "look at me, I'm important and knew before you"

Heavenscent86 Wed 23-Sep-15 07:50:45

I must say that I would be very upset and angry if anyone did this to me and my partner. It's our prerogative to decide when and if we announce our pregnancy and likewise after the birth it's our choice again when and how it's announced. At the moment I think we will be keeping it off of Facebook and just informing the people we see a lot of and that really matter.

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