I guess this is the crux of my question. My scenario is that I am currently 13 weeks I found out I was pregnant at 9 weeks so have had about 3 weeks to get my head around it. I live in rural North Wales, have done for 7 years and my partner lives in Cardiff. Before finding out I was pregnant I had been under pressure to move in with him in Cardiff and frankly I had been putting it off and avoiding the discussion because I am just not a city girl at all. I love and value peace and tranquility, a safe rural environment and my garden and pets. I can manage my bills comfortably here and have a flexible working environment. I can't envisage myself living in a massive city.
So I am pregnant and just completely and utterly exhausted, to the point where I want to sleep every spare minute. I am trying to continue working without work suspecting as I don't want to inform them until after my scan. My work is very outdoorsy so this has been a challenge! Fortunately I have had no sickness so far so it has been easier to disguise than it would otherwise. And now my partner knows about the pregnancy the pressure he is putting on for me to move down there is immense! To the point where, I'm ashamed to say I have been avoiding him, because I just don't have the energy for a stressful heated 'discussion' which is what I am getting every time he calls me. I can feel that because I feel so run down I will end up caving in without proper thought longer term to where I actually want to bring up our child. If I move there I/our child will not have a garden and will not be able to take my pets (which breaks my heart), I won't do as much walking as I wouldn't feel safe, and I would be putting even more distance between me and my family, who are already 185 miles away from where I live now. Plus rent is astronomical in Cardiff for next to nothing. But I can see a train of thought that I may be being completely selfish by not wanting to move and that I should just put my baby and my partner first. I just feel in such a bad place right now what with everything. The thought of moving is just depressing me so much.
Is anyone else in a similar situation? Perspectives either way would be really handy. Thanks.
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Is it selfish not to want to move in with your partner when you're pregnant?
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U8myufo · 22/06/2015 21:53
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