Hi Ladies,
I'm hoping for some reassurance really more than anything (apologies for the rambling in advance). This is my first pregnancy and I'm just over 12 weeks. So far I've had 3 bleeds at 5 weeks, 9 weeks and a very mild one just a couple of days ago. No real cause could be found at the EPAU and it was suggested constipation might be a factor as I've had a healthy dose of that for the last 6 weeks (sorry if TMI).
I've also had a tummy ache that is there 80% of the time for the last 6 weeks, it's not unbearable mostly uncomfortable but can range from a burning feeling by my pubic bone to cramps and general acheyness all over my lower abdomen. I've tried to convince myself this is probably related to the constipation, but having never suffered from this prior to this pregnancy I just don't know.
My midwife is pretty useless (I had a cover midwife as the usual one was on holiday, so I've not met the normal one yet). When I mentioned the stomach ache to her she laughed at me and told me to stop complaining and get used to it. I've had 5 scans so far (1 private reassurance scan) all show baby is healthy and growing right on target and no obvious signs of anything else wrong (most recently on Saturday). I have my official 12 week scan on Friday.
I want to be excited and to tell everyone my news, but I'm terrified that in my case 12 weeks doesn't mean that i'm 'safe' due to whats happened so far and that the statistics don't apply to me. I've become scared of going to the loo in case I cause or find more bleeding.
Any advice please or do I just need to get a grip? Thanks in advance
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Extremely anxious still at 12 weeks.
Jilly84 · 02/06/2015 09:48
Op if it helps, this is my third pg and I have had the aches and pains you describe in all three thought the first trimester. Once I reach the second tri they tend to move on to round ligament pain (a bit higher up and yo the sides!) 
Some of us just feel these things more than others but it's totally within the realms of normal.
I am also 'a bleeder'! I usually bleed from 6 weeks more on than off until about 14 or 15 weeks, then sporadically after that until about 24 weeks. When I told the obstetrician this time around at 16 weeks that I was still bleeding and had daily since 6 weeks his response was: "well, I think you'll just have to get used to that as it may carry on like that!" no significant cause has ever been found and I've had two healthy do and this one is looking good so far.
At your stage the placenta is growing and tapping into your blood vessels all the time, it's really no wonder there are little leaks from time to time.
Warning signs I've been told to look out for are severe cramping (the sort that paracetamol, a warm bath and a rest doesn't even touch), and/or heavy red bleeding (soaking through at least one pad every hour to 2 hrs). Unless you are experiencing that, and especially given your scans have been good so far, I think you can afford to relax!
There is no pressure to tell people though. Your swelling belly will be a lot more noticeable to you then others (and you'll probably find that as you move into tri 2 the bloating and constipation will reduce and you will look more normal again for a bit).
On the constipation, are you taking a multi vit? If you are, stop for a week and just take folic acid and vit d instead and see if that eased things. The iron in pregnacare can be rotten for bunging you up!
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