Hi all,
Basically I found out last night that I'm pregnant and judging by my dates I'm about 5 weeks. I am completely bewildered as to what I should do... I live with my OH, of whom doesn't know yet. I don't no where to start so please bear with me
I don't know where I stand in terms of abortion. The thought of it absolutely feels me with sadness as in all honesty, I wasn't careful enough last month! Even if I was, why should an innocent child suffer the consequences? However, I do accept that I am only 5 weeks and it's an embryo (for now).
I have a stable job (although just part time and in retail so the money isn't amazing), and I don't live with family anymore too. It's just I'm so young and I'm still in education Partner works full time but he's 21. I feel gutted in a way because I know if I put my foot down and said I'm keeping this baby, he'd back me 100%. It's just we both know a child isn't want he wants at this stage, and won't be for quite some time. There's so much he wants to explore and do without the financial and time-consuming burden on children.
The fact that I've said a termination would upset me probably rings red lights, but I spoke to a cousin and she said she still feels upset about her abortion (6 years ago) but is glad she did have one because her career wouldn't be where it is today if she didn't, she also has 2 children now.
Another big thing is this, two months ago I had a pregnancy scare and I made the stupid mistake of telling OH "I'm pregnant", instead of explaining that I could. I don't know why I done it, I just thought I was so much that I wanted him to mentally be prepared before I was. He was actually very happy at the thought of his own baby, then it turnt into his big mess because obviously I wasn't pregnant, he had to tell his family I was wrong and my mum had a long phone call with him, explaining she doesn't want to see me pregnant at 17, 18 or 21. She barged him about how good child free life is bluah bluah bluah.
Anyway can someone please advise me I feel sick with worry, I'm eve considering abortion and keeping it secret, that way everyone can carry on as normal.
Thank you x
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sophiedeana990 · 16/05/2015 18:38
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