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Changing Midwife

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pocketsized · 28/01/2015 12:53

Hi All,

Just after your thoughts please. I am 31 weeks pregnant and being seen regularly by the community midwife team. Technically midwife A is "my" midwife, but I don't see her any more often than the other 2 in the team. I have just had an appointment (with midwife B), and they have booked a longer appointment for 34 weeks to come to to the house and discuss my birth options/plan. This has been booked with midwife A as she is "mine."

Now the tricky bit - I don't like her. She hasn't done anything wrong, but I don't find her easy to talk to/relax with. I have some previous medical history that I feel she has been a little dismissive of - but that may be entirely my perception rather than anything she has done. I would just much rather have this appointment with one of the other midwives, but I have no real complaint or concern with midwife A, just personal preference that I don't get on with her all that well. Can I ask to have the appointment with someone else? Who would I ask? I don't want midwife A to have any negative feedback or anything, as she has been entirely professional etc, I just don't think I will be confident asking questions or expressing my opinions with her.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, if so what did you do?

Thanks!

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weelamb123 · 28/01/2015 16:14

Sorry, I haven't had any experience but wanted to bump ur thread bak to top. Xx

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pocketsized · 28/01/2015 17:57

Aww, thanks weelamb

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jmojo · 28/01/2015 19:24

I was a mw. I would say call and speak to mw b. Say what you say here about mw A being professional but you don't feel comfortable with her, etc. (you sound very reasonable) Is it possible to change mw? Ask her to be descreet, and explain you don't want to make mw A feel bad. If you can't change you wont have lost anything.
I don't know what type of care you are under, team/ 1-1etc. But you should feel comfy with the person you see.
Goodluck.

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pocketsized · 28/01/2015 20:01

Thanks jmojo

I will try and do that, I don't want to make a fuss, and understand they may not be able to accommodate but I've seen 3 different midwives over the course of the pregnancy (just as I have been allocated those appointments) and seen each of them more or less equally so it seems like it shouldn't be too difficult to achieve...