People are starting to guess I'm preg

[ParsleyCake]

I'm so angry at myself - I just could not keep my mouth shut. I could swear I didn't hint, but couldn't hide the fact I was ill and because it was so bad, I kept complaining about it over a period of two weeks. Now my mother is giving me knowing looks and my grandmother texted me straight out asking if I could be pregnant as it's not normal to be ill for so long.

I'm only 9 weeks along, and I had hoped to wait until the 12 weeks scan before saying anything. I don't mind telling my mum, but I know if I tell my grandmother the news will be passed to our most distant family members within minutes, and I don't want to deal with that in case I miscarry.

I am a full grown woman but as I'm not married I think my grandmother will dissapprove and my mother will probably dissapprove as well, so I have actually been dreading telling people, despite being happy with being pregnant. However the sickness has been almost unbearable, so I would be glad to tell at least one person about it.

I just feel so stressed out at the whole thing, and needed to vent. Looks like I'll have to twll my mum sooner and meanwhile keep bluffing with my grandmother until the scan at least.

[bellaboo88]

Trust me...they'll get over the not married thing! My mum kept suggesting we need to hurry up get married before kids but she's now too excited to care. What's more important is being stable & happy.

I too was sick as a dog & I'm glad I had both mums help through it. Im jealous, no grandparents left but they'd have been thrilled to meet next generation.

Don't be too hard on yourself & tell your mum ? x

[juneavrile]

Congratulations. You're happy and that's the most important thing.

There is no reason not to tell people before 12 weeks. It's more important that you have support around you in case things do go wrong, so allow yourself to share the news with those who fit that bill. Your Mum for starters. Maybe she can tell your grandmother and TELL her to keep it under her hat for a mere four weeks and explain why that matters. It's not much to ask of a close relative. They will then have each other to talk about it / get excited with. Maybe tell one of your closest friends too, so you have someone who can share the ups and downs of the next month.

As for your marriage status, that's not going to change in the next four weeks. So you can stop giving yourself a hard time about that!