I am. I know I am. But I am SO frustrated that after an emergency EPU scan there is still no solid evidence that the baby is ok and I think the sonographer has given me and DP false hope which (if I'm right) is utterly unfair!
Basically, we were sent to the EPU after a week of on/off bleeding. She couldn't get a clear enough view through the abdominal scan so went for an internal to get a clearer view. After about 10/15 minutes rooting around she began to say "well I'm afraid there's no...." Then laughed and said "oh there it is, I was about to write that one off!"
Baby is measuring 3 weeks too small and we saw 1 flicker of what could've been a heartbeat then we didn't see it again as she stopped scanning.
So
A) do NOT laugh when you're in the the middle of telling a woman her baby has no heart beat
B) don't describe it as 'writing it off'
C) wait around a few seconds longer just to see the heartbeat more than once!
Then we got to the nurse after who said as the baby was measuring 7 weeks we needed to amend my 12 week scan date (which I was expecting) so I contested it because I KNOW my dates are right because DP works away and as he told her, we could tell her to the hour it was conceived!
Thankfully she agreed to keep my scan date the same as before, if she'd have changed it it would've been a 6 week wait rather than 3!
I left the hospital feeling utterly frustrated and confused with no definite answer as to whether my baby is ok or not and not support from either nurse who's attitude seemed to be very 'well what do you want me to do about it?'
I probably am being unreasonable but that scan was meant to be reassuring and I've come away feeling more uncertain than when I went in. DP says we should take comfort from the fact she saw a heartbeat as she wouldn't have said it if she wasn't sure but I'm not convinced, she seemed to just want to get it done and onto the next one.
I just want to know what's going on and nobody seems to be able to/want to tell me :( I know you'll all say take comfort from seeing a heartbeat but I've seen heartbeats on scans before and hand on heart I don't think that's what it was. Is as what she saw and I honestly don't think it was a heartbeat.
This 3 weeks is going to be torchure. I can't afford a private scan and don't really want to go back to them :(
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AIBU to be bloody frustrated at the nurses attitude?- possible MMC
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Wetthemogwai · 05/07/2014 14:40
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