Depression & anxiety during pregnancy

[khentges28]

28 weeks pregnant and I have been having sever depression & anxiety lately. I am in active DBT therapy and am choosing to wait until postpartum to take medication. However, among my other appointments and not being able to find a job because I am pregnant, it is a struggle to get through everyday. I constantly worry about how I am going to get by when my baby comes, as I am unemployed and don't have the funds to buy baby things. I have a few items, but that's it. I am constantly feeling alone because I don't have any family for support. I have a few friends. Baby's father is not in the picture. I even express my concerns to my OB/GYN and she always says "everything is normal." That is a different issue though. I am starting to feel sadness inside me (my depression) and a pit feeling in the bottom of my throat. I don't know what to do, or how to get by. Like I said, every single day is a struggle.

[htbftm]

:-( khentges depression in pregnancy is far more common than many people think! Your hormones are all over the place, your body is working twice as hard when you re sat down than it used to when you exercise and you have a lot think and worry about! Hardly surprising it gets too much to handle sometimes! It is a 'normal' feeling so try not to bet yourself up about it, and ensure you keep talking to your mw or gp so they know how you feel. As for the money, if you think about how much you could spend even Kate Middleton couldn't afford it lol and you will worry yourself sick. But its surprising how much you can get away without buying when they are little, so start looking around for second hand bargains and plan to get the essentials. Thinking of you! xx

[khentges28]

Thank you so much. I have reached out to friends since I posted this, and have gotten reassurance and support that I needed. You're right, temporarily, it's gets overwhelming and it's hard to get out of that loop of constant thoughts just building up.

[htbftm]

Its a pleasure! Getting a support network is a really good idea! :-) I don't think we're all that good at asking for things, but when you re expecting you need to learn to do that lol! Might be worth seeing if there are any local ante natal support groups too - you can find new friends that are going through it at the same time as you, and they'll be good company when you have your little bundles of joy! x

[LBNM19]

Hi I have also been struggling from anxiety it's awful I'm 20 weeks pregnant and been referred to iapts service. Waiting for first session.

Is this your first child? If so you can get a grant I think of up to around £500.00.

Also when baby is here you will get support from government (I was working when my first son was born) but it became apparent whilst on mat leave he had various problems, he is severly disabilled, ive never been able to go bsck to work and I am now on benefits. I also wasn't with he's father at the time, you will get much more help when they no a child is depending on you. So please don't worry.

Then when your ready you can look for a job xx

[YorkshireTeaGold]

Hi! I had really bad anxiety and depression in both my pregnancies... I have a history of it but feel the hormones related to preg made it much worse. It was horrible, especially as you're supposed to be over the moon. Must be doubly hard for you without family/partner support.

I found it got loads better once the baby was born. Hormones levelled off and having to get on with the baby 24/7 meant I couldn't dwell on the negative feelings. I also tried to talk to hv/gp/friends as much as possible to stop any worries escalating.

Hope you feel better soon xxx

[DuckeyP]

Hi!

I'm sorry you're feeling like this, I know how it feels to a certain extent.

I moved just before finding out so I have no job and am stuck at home all day in a new city with no friends, it's a hard and lonely thing to deal with.

Just remember that all your baby really needs is you! He needs you to love and care for him, thats all >.< try not to stress about the material things (i know its hard)

Yes, look on gov.uk there is info for help on there

xx