Cheeky cousin or AIBU?

[lillajag]

My cousin asked me earlier today if she can come and stay for the weekend when I'm 38 weeks. She lives in my home country and explained that this is the only weekend she's available.

This is my first baby and the first one in maaaany years on that side of the family so maybe I'm just naive to think that no one should invite themselves over when I'm possible going to be in labour? (I'm having a home birth but she's not aware of that)

I'm definitely going to say no to her but that she is welcome when the baby is a bit bigger (she's not a good house guest but we're family... so) but am I still 'right' to be a bit pissed off with her?

Maybe the fact that I slept pretty bad last night because of the heat or the fact that I'm 32 weeks pregnant has made me look at things differently!

[Youdontneedacriminallawyer]

If she's childless herself, she probably hasn't thought it through, and doesn't realise how you'll be feeling. She might not even realise that you'll be 38 weeks on the weekend in question - not everyone, no matter how closely related, will be following your progress day by day!

[SanityClause]

I don't think it's particularly cheeky to ask, but if it's not convenient, just say no.

Just explain that you are tired, and not really up to entertaining house guests.

[PenguinsLoveFishFingers]

I agree, if she doesn't have children (a) she probably doesn't realise; and (b) I doubt she has kept track of the dates that closely. She's probably thinking 'ooh, it's a couple of weeks before the baby, that'll be fine.

You are totally right to say no though!

[FunkyBoldRibena]

Did she say 'can I come when you are 38 weeks' or 'Can I come on x-date weekend'?

[wishinwaitinhopin]

Agree. If she doesn't have children and hasn't been pregnant she won't get this at all or why she's being inappropriate - I had no clue about any of this till i had a baby, x

[alita7]

depends how she put it. Did she say I know you're going to be heavily pregnant but can I come then as atm is very busy for me. or did she say I'm free then so we have to do that weekend, I can't do any other time, which a complete disregard for your pregnancy? because I would expect her to ask if it was close to your due date or if you have any baby stuff on or something... I would explain that lots of women go into labour 2 weeks before and you are having a home birth so it wouldn't be a good idea.

[thereisnoeleventeen]

I think it depends on what sort of guest she is tbh. I've had friends/relatives stay late on in pregnancy and it's been a nice break, they haven't let me do anything for them and insisted on bringing food/take aways or driving me out for a meal.