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Missed misscarriage - Could they be wrong?

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hayleymig · 08/02/2014 23:11

Hi All

I'm so desperate for advice.

I found out I was pregnant for the first time on the 28th December. My last period was around the 16th November however they have been irregular since coming off the pill, 3 years ago. I did a clear blue test on the 28th December which confirmed I was 1-2 weeks. I booked in to see the midwife and explained all of this, however she said my due date would go from my last period so confirmed I was due around the 25th August.

On Friday 7th February, I went for my 11/12 week scan, the nurse asked if I could of been wrong about the dates. Not thinking at the time, I said "No" as the midwife was so sure. She then went on to do an internal scan and confirmed my baby measured 7 weeks and 3 days but there was no heartbeat. She said at this stage there should be a physical sign of a heart beat but ive had no signs of a misscarriage at all. I have had all the normal pregnancy signs, sore boobs, feeling really sick at night (instead of morning), not being able to get comfy etc. Im still having the symptoms now and my bellys grown so much in the last 3 weeks, to the point, I was thinking I could be carrying twins as they run through the family.

Could they be wrong and could my dates be wrong? If I go off the clear blue test, im around 7 weeks pregnant which confirms the scan dates, but if I go off my last period then im 12 weeks, meaning my baby died around 5 weeks ago and I didnt know. Also baby is still visible on the scan too.

Theres loads of different forums online stating it depends how the baby is positioned to hear the heart beat and its common to hear the heart beat around 6.5 weeks, however in some cases upto 8 weeks. Could my babies heart beat go unnoticed?

After my scan, I had to go to the early pregnancy unit to talk through my options, in which, I asked for a second opinion. They said they wouldn't do a scan again the same day, so im booked in again on Wednesday 12th February, which, if my theory is right, I will be 8 weeks.

Wednesday feels like a decade away so has anyone else had the same experience and what was your outcome? I dont want to give up just yet but dont want to build my hopes up either.

Thank you so much for reading this xxx

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EsioTrot · 08/02/2014 23:18

I'm sorry, I haven't gone through the same thing but just wanted to say I'm sorry you're going through this. I would be incredibly anxious in your position but it sounds like your dates from scan and pregnancy test may be correct and as you're still having pregnancy symptoms I would be hopeful.

I'm sure Wednesday seems like a lifetime away but I'll keep my fingers crossed for good news for you.

I hope you have some good RL support to help you get through the next few days.

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hayleymig · 08/02/2014 23:35

Thank you EsioTrot, your kind words do mean a lot. Hopefully Wednesday will give me some answer's or closure. I do have a wonderful and supportive husband, however ive been through so much these last 6 months, it feels like the worlds against me at the moment. Your support is encouraging x

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Rockchick1984 · 08/02/2014 23:41

I have had a missed miscarriage (different circumstances as I was certain of my dates and had seen heartbeat at 8 week scan, no HB at 12 week scan) and I still had all the symptoms of pregnancy, baby had died around 9 weeks. Based on when you got your positive test result (6 weeks ago) that would put your pregnancy at 8 weeks, so there's a slight chance they couldn't see the heartbeat for some reason.

I think the best advice here is to prepare for the worst, and hope for the best. I desperately hope your dates are wrong, and that all is fine.

I got a lot of support from the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board (under Body and Soul) when I was going through it, possibly worth your while asking to have the thread moved to there as there will be more people on there with experience?

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hayleymig · 09/02/2014 00:15

Hi Rockchick1984, thank you for taking the time to respond. Im so sorry to hear your heartbreaking news and im really glad to hear you have had the support you needed. I have taken your advice and re-posted this on the body and soul board as my mind is in over drive. I just cant understand how there could be no signs and with the test I did, however the midwifes have just dismissed it. So I dont know what to think. I do like your statement, prepare for the worst but hope for the best. I will definately take this on board. Again thank you and I hope your staying positive x

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cosmickitten · 09/02/2014 12:00

Haley I'm so sorry sorry this is happening to you. My first pregnancy ended in a missed misscarriage. We saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks and then at 11 w 5 weeks the baby measured 8 w 5 with no heart beat. My uterus continued to grow and I had morning sickness all until I had a ercp. Sometimes in a missed misscarriage your body simply doesn't seem to register to the death of the baby. It is a very cruel and heartbreaking experience.

I hope that you have wonderful news on the 12 th as there is a chance. Use the pregnancy loss board on body soul. It was my life line in the summer. If the worst does happen the ladies there will be able to offer lots of support.

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CouthyMow · 09/02/2014 12:12

Long story for me, but with DS3, having been told my pregnancy was 'non-viable' at a scan at 6+6, as no fetal pole was seen, and again when no heartbeat was seen at 8+6, my DS3 was doing fine by my 12 weeks scan.

My non-viable pregnancy is now 3yo DS3...!

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jen2014 · 11/02/2014 14:24

Just wanted to say good luck for tomorrow and I really hope it's the best possible news.
I had a bleed and no hb on a regular scan at 7+2 but an internal scan later confirmed everything was ok.
With regards to the periods, I was taking cerazette contraceptives before DS1 and this pregnancy. I didn't have periods at all on that pill or when I came off it so I wouldn't take the dates of LMP as set in stone. The digital tests are very accurate so cross fingers your scan tomorrow will be fine. I know it feels like an eternity when you're waiting though x

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singlespeedlass · 11/02/2014 20:02

Just wanted to wish you good luck for tomorrow and to let you know, for what it's worth, that there will be lots of people thinking of you. I really hope you get good news.