I've had the week from hell I just need someone to talk to.
I'm 24 + 3 weeks pregnant and on Monday I booked a private scan, the idea was just to ease my fears so I could finally relax and maybe take home a few nice 3D pics. I have two other children, but the father was very against this baby being born and hasn't had anything to do with the pregnancy. It's left me feeling very stressed and a bit unhappy.
Towards the end of the scan the sonographer picked up something strange in my baby's mouth. She thought it could be a cleft palate (without lip) and called the doctor for a second look. The doctor saw it too, his description was either it was a cleft palate or a 'cystic mass'. They sent me straight to the Fetal Medicine Unit at my hospital and after a bit of badgering I got a scan by a consultant today.
The results are not good. The baby has a growth at the back of her tongue measuring around 14.5mm x 14.5mm. At this moment it is not blocking anything, but they are not sure whether it's a blocked gland filled with fluid or some kind of rare tumour. An urgent MRI scan is going to be booked at another hospital to see what the growth consists of, and after that they can tell me what the next steps are. The consultant said he had not seen anything like it before. They are also baffled that it wasn't seen on my 20 week anomaly scan and where and why it has suddenly appeared.
They couldn't tell me whether or not this was life threatening and that is probably the one thing that is destroying me inside. I am sooo scared and I've just been crying constantly the whole time. I can't believe it is happening. I haven't been able to discuss it with anyone but my mum, and she is very much a 'get on with it' type of person.
I was told the best thing it could be is a blocked gland that can be drained. Regardless of anything she may need to be intubated if the growth gets bigger and blocks her airways, and may need to be operated on when she is born.
I told the father on my way home from hospital - the first time we have spoken since November. He just told me to keep him updated, tbh I think he would be happier if she didn't live through this, I'm regretting saying anything now. It just feels like one big nightmare.
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Scan abnormality - Advice or support :(
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Happy8714 · 22/01/2014 18:22
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