I am a senior manager and am 20 weeks pregnant with DC1. I've started showing more recently and am struggling a bit with how I'm being treated. At this point I should acknowledge that I'm sure many women face explicit and blatant discrimination - this is not what I'm facing but I do have concerns and would like your perspectives.
My company doesn't have a lot of female senior managers and very few that have been pregnant. I work quite closely with my immediate manager and his manager.
We were having a conversation today regarding things I'm working on - pretty significant business priorities. Whilst working through timings, they asked when I'd be finishing. I explained that I would work until (at the earliest) 2 weeks before my due date. They immediately poo-poo'd this, explaining that their wives weren't able to do this.... I have two issues:
- it feels wrong for them to judge me by the yard stick of their wives. Whilst this is DC1, I know me - I have lots of reasons for wanting to work as long as possible (interest in the things I'm working on, the need to keep as much as possible of my planned 6 months mat leave for when the baby's here, my fear of going nuts at home...). I know things will become more difficult but I feel really patronised by this approach - the idea that they know best.
- I feel that they feel they are going out of their way to be reasonable and make concessions for me. I've no problem with a heavy box being carried for me, etc, but I don't expect / need work-related concessions to be made. I think they think I need to be given a break and this means they're qualifying what I achieve against a yardstick that has concessions written against it. The truth in fact, is that work has gotten really busy and I'm probably working more / contributing more than in the last year. I've been away from home 2 nights this week and worked a 12 hour day in the office today - I ain't slacking!
So - what do you think? Am I over-reacting? And what do I / should I / can I do about managing these two issues in the coming months - I can only see this continuing / these attitudes and behaviours being entrenched... (also - if you work at a senior level, when did you start your mat leave?).
Thanks for reading