I had a horrid experience yesterday during my 32 week consultancy. At my hospital, you don?t get consistency so you basically get whoever?s available. So far, they've all been great and very nice. But yesterday, I got to see the head of obs and gyno who happens to be the same man who oversaw our first failed NHS IVF round.
He recognised me and didn?t say congrats. Instead, the first thing he said was: 'Well, you've got this far', implying I might lose the baby over the coming weeks or something. Then he went on a massive rant against the private IVF treatment I got in London (which got me pregnant! And also doubled the quality of my eggs and embryos so it wasn't just down to luck). He was just really horrible about it, suggesting they ripped me off and ?no-one believes the techniques being used in some of the clinics in London?.
He spent most of the consultation going on and on about it, not even mentioning my baby. He also implied he might take me off my Clexane injections early as he doesn't believe the things I've been diagnosed with (clotting issues) are 'real'. WTF? I am pregnant for the first time in 5 years cos of that clinic! It was very clear he's bitter they got me pregnant and not him, and it's like this small town mentality, not trusting the new fangly clinics in London!
Eventually, he checked the baby (spent about a minute doing it out of the 20 min appointment!). She's lying transverse so I might need a c-section if she doesn?t budge, going in again in 4 weeks to check her position. But he barely mentioned this, just ranted and ranted about the clinic.
Anyway, I got home and burst into tears. I absolutely do not want to see him again but I also don?t want to create a fuss as he?s head of the unit and I really really don?t want to cause any ramifications for my care (he seems a bitter type who might make things difficult). When I go in for my 36 week appointment, can you recommend any discreet ways I can ask to see someone else (without implicitly saying ?I don?t want to see him??). Am I allowed to request particular consultants (not that I can decipher the handwriting on my green notes to figure out who I saw last!).
Thanks, Tx
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How do I discreetly get another consultant next time after horrid experience?
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TrixieLox · 10/05/2013 09:25
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