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17 weeks pregnant on the run?!

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KayleeKay Sat 27-Apr-13 16:54:25

Hi not sure if I'm posting this in the right place but really need some advice about what to do next. Please be gentle with me I'm a wreck as it is!

A long story short: i was with my boyfriend about 2 month when I found out I was pregnant. I knew I was keeping it that's not the issue. We were fine and really happy but now things have changed. I'm havin second thoughts about staying here and with him. He's quiet immature and goes out too much would spend his months wages in a week and do other stupid things which was fine when it was just us. He recently took the piss for the last time at work which ended in him getting fired.

Now his realised he has a problem and is goin to rehab for drinking and other things. But I don't want to be involved with it. We're not together at the moment and I'm seriously thinking about just packin my things getting a bus somewhere and starting over a new just me and the baby. (We don't live together btw). I have some money saved but confused about how to go about it. I really don't want to be around here anymore and think its the best thing to do.

I'm not sure what my question is really just so stressed and confused.

Do u think I'm majorly over reacting and livin in a dream world or could I actually do it?

Has anyone ever been in the same situation and have advice?

Oh and I'm 26 with no "proper" job to leave behind. I'm no family I could really talk to about this either.


RJM17 Sat 27-Apr-13 17:17:41

Didn't want to read and run but don't really have any advice other than only you know what is best for u!
If he is trying to get help then do u think u could work if he changed? Again only u know the answers.
Hope u sort things out and get to where u want to be.
And congrats on baby x

TeWiSavesTheDay Sat 27-Apr-13 17:22:44

How long will he be in rehab?

If you'd like to move somewhere else I'd try and get a new job there first. That way you won't risk accidentally moving somewhere where it's really hard to get a job or running our of Money before you find something. It will be easier to get somewhere to rent with a work contract as well.

If you think life would be better away from your ex that's totally your choice, just don't rush into anything.

Newtobecomingamum Sat 27-Apr-13 17:22:57

Hi, big hugs! I think you have already made your decision by the sound of it. Personally, I would make a move now why you don't have all of the ties. He doesn't sound very responsible ie drinking, not good with money etc. How does he treat you and what does he think about having the baby? Could he be a danger to the baby if he's drinking heavily? Is other things (drugs?).... No need to answer that, but I wouldn't put my baby in a possible dangerous environment. Also, if he has problems now, what's he going to be like with the possible stressful times when you have the baby. I may sound selfish the way im sounding about him but I would put me and my baby first. There is nothing stopping you from sorting the relationship out at a later stage (if that's what you want) once he has sorted himself out etc. X x

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