As I am not my DH mother he doesn't spoil me and likewise for Father's Day. My children normally make cards if they remember and my 9yo (only one with pocket money) has asked Dad to take him out to spend it on me. It means a lot to me that he has done this off his own back and will mean more than any gift.
In my opinion our wedding anniversary is when my DH makes a fuss of me and Mother's Day is when we make a fuss of our Mothers.
Was out shopping at the weekend. Knowing how rubbish my Dp is at this stuff I made him get his own mum a card. I did say that next year it's up to him to get me one! I don't hold out much hope... But given that he brings me plenty of tea and biscuits in bed and other nice real life stuff I can let it go (assuming I don't turn into a hormonal mess when this baby is born!!!)!
I never get a fuss on any special days be it mother's day, valentine's day, wedding anniversaries, birthdays or whatever
This is because my husband firmly believes a wife/girlfriend should be treated like royalty every day. I get bacon butties brought to me every Saturday morning, and Sunday lunch cooked every weekend, and random flowers and chocs and other nice stuff. I'm so lucky.
I can't remember if my DH did anything on mothers day when I was pregnant with my PFB. I remember getting breakfast in bed the day after the first BFP though. I think mothers day means more when the children are older though. DS1 made me a card and laminated bookmark at school when he was 4 which was more special than a card and chocolates bought by DH when DS1 was younger. We don't do fathers day because DH thinks it's too commercialised so I make a big fuss of him at easter instead.
Before having a baby with sleepless nights and the romance going out of the relationship () there is NO REASON in my opinion to not get a bacon butty in bed (and it doesn't even have to be mother's day).