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'Any news on the baby' text - still over a month to go!

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cakesonatrain · 22/01/2013 21:48

Aaargh.

Dad's wife just sent my first nagging text of this pregnancy, and I'm not even due til 5th March!
Last time she waited til I was 39 weeks to start with 'please keep us updated', which was annoying enough - like I was going to not tell my dad when my first baby was born! but this is even worse. What news am I really going to have?

I know, I know, she's just interested and wants to be involved and all that...

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orangetickle · 22/01/2013 22:22

Reply that yes, actually, you've already had the baby and just didn't want to tell her..

That or reply once that 'nothing yet, but I'll let you know when it does'. Then ignore any further texts....

ExpatAl · 23/01/2013 00:31

She's showing her interest. You'd probably be miffed if she couldn't care less.

cakesonatrain · 23/01/2013 02:48

Have ignored so far, will reply nicely to this one then ignore further questions as can't trust myself not to be snippy.

I wouldn't be bothered if she wasn't bothered - not her grandchild! I'd be miffed if my dad wasn't bothered.

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Kafri · 23/01/2013 06:47

It doesn't sound like you have the closest relationship??

Could she be trying to bond with you over this baby rather than nag?
Just wondering?

Missingthemincepies · 23/01/2013 07:05

Totally agree with the frustration of those texts, phone calls. I went to 40+13 and was ready to murder my family and friends that phoned or texted 20x per day!
Have to say though that its a bit harsh to not include her in a grandparent role, she's your dads wife. But perhaps there's history there we don't know. Hope you can work it out. My DS only has 1 grandparent and if the option was there to have more I would.

FadBook · 23/01/2013 07:09

Send this back:

www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

Flisspaps · 23/01/2013 07:31

Fadbook I fucking loved that during both pregnancies.

I would have sent back "No, and with at least a month still to go I am pleased there is no 'news'. I will let you and Dad know as soon as baby is here x"

cakesonatrain · 23/01/2013 07:36

She's not trying to bond, she doesn't realise she's being annoying. She never realises when she's being annoying - that's one of the things that makes her annoying :)
She isn't a grandparent. She isn't a parent.
I'm quite happy for my dad and her to visit and be interested and involved in mine and my children's lives, but I don't like being nagged about baby news! By anyone!

Love that website, FadBook. Will save that for later! :)

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Kafri · 23/01/2013 09:30

Fair enough. In that case tell her you'll let them know when little one arrives a d there's no need to bug u for a month. Either that or text her every day for a week and say 'no news' and she'll soon see it gets annoying! :-) x

Havingkittens · 23/01/2013 09:37

I would text back innocently asking "What kind of news?" and if she replies by asking if it's showing signs of arrival text her back saying "Thankfully not, it's not due until the month after next."

BikeRunSki · 23/01/2013 09:41

There can still be news though. Engaged, turned breech, breech turned back, various reasons you might need cs.

I think you dad's wife is only showing interest. My mum's partner adores my DC.

NAR4 · 23/01/2013 13:24

I sympathise completely. My mum has already taken to phoning, literally dozens of times a day for updates and as far as she knows I still have 6 weeks to go. I have never gone into labour myself either, so will prob have to wait an extra 2 weeks for induction.

I have stopped answering most of her calls now, so this morning she stooped to an all time low and phoned me from her friends mobile, so I wouldn't recognise the number.

IcouldstillbeJoseph · 23/01/2013 13:29

Sympathise completely - I am 38 wks preg with DC2. Thinking I may reply to a couple of the persistent texters with too much information... E.g. "well, I'm having lots of vaginal discharge and it's slippery in texture now. Also, feeling engorged in my labia. So hopefully, not long"

cakesonatrain · 23/01/2013 13:32

I've told her that I don't expect to have any baby news for a good month.
In a friendly text.

Last time, mil was on emergency standby in case I went into labour while DH was at a job interview in London at about 39 weeks.
She phoned me that day to check I was ok. All good. Then she phoned the next day, and the next day, until I stopped answering the phone.

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cakesonatrain · 23/01/2013 13:33

Ooh, I like that strategy, Joseph!

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