Firstly sorry for the long post! I'm new to all this & wondering if any of you have had similar experiences with your mw.
I'm 16+3 wks with my first baby & me and DP are very happy & excited The only thing is, every mw I have met, with the exception of one, has been pretty narky and pretty unhelpful. I'm wondering is it just me?
I had expected that I would be guided and advised by the community mw and I had this person in my head to be someone friendly that I would be able to speak to about anything. The first mw we saw was exactly like this. But every appointment I've had since has been with someone different, and altogether a lot less cheerier!
At my booking appointment the mw wasnt the worst, but she appeared a bit flustered filling in the notes and ended up ticking lots of wrong boxes including the one about whether I want a blood transfusion if needed where she ticked NO when I said yes. Basically my notes are all scribbled out and a mess. It didn't leave me feeling very confident.
At wk 13 I was told, by my mw unit on the phone, to go up to their unit for a blood test to test for immunity to chickenpox as my BIL came down with Shingles on Christmas Day (& I've never had chickenpox). Firstly I was reprimanded by the mw for being there as I could potentially pass on chicken pox to someone in the hospital - which I understand, but I was told to go there! Then when she was taking blood & couldnt get any out (I have a phobia of blood/needles/veins, which I had warned her of) she gave me into trouble for 'thinking too much' and said 'it's your own fault you're like this'. When I asked her to remove the needle and give me a breather she did so, tossed the needle in the bin, said 'if that's what you want, I don't want to be accused of abuse!' then stormed out the room. My mother and I were speechless! She returned a 5 mins later, managed to toake blood & I got out of there asap! We laughed it off at home thinking it was a one-off.
I had my 16wk mw appointment this week and was disappointed to find another new face, just as grumpy and narky as the last. I had a list of concerns I wanted to ask her about but in the end I only asked her a couple after they were met with patrionising and sharp responses. She was also quite rude to my DP who was with me when he asked her a couple of questions.
Please tell me, am I expecting too much? I know it's their job, and everyone has a down-day at work and gets fed up with it all, but I had at least expected a friendly face and to be able to talk to them.
I was just feeling a bit disappointed with it all, but now after writing it down, I'm pretty peed off! What do I do if one of these grumps is assigned to deliver my baby?!?! Argh!!!
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WeeS · 19/01/2013 13:21
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