Hi mumsnet, never joined a forum before so not sure what to expect, hoping for some advice.
I'm in a very unusual situation. I'm 19, my fiance is 20 and we've just bought a house. He earns very good money in IT, when I met him we were 16 and he had no money at all, so please don't assume I'm with him for the money as most people do.
His brother and brothers fiancee are renting a flat which they hate, they are 25 and both work extremely hard but don't earn much and are unable to save enough to move out of their flat.
A few months ago after a very long time trying to concieve she announced she was pregnant and they were overjoyed. Unfortunately she lost the baby. Shortly after this she got very drunk and told me she was very jealous of everything my fiance and I have. I view her as a close friend and was upset to hear this.
I am about 10 weeks pregnant, it's an accident but there was never a question of whether or not we'd keep it. I haven't told anyone apart from my partner, I feel really nervous about telling his family as my in laws are obviously still devastated and after what my SIL told me I feel like this would be a real kick in the teeth.
My fiance wants me to quit my job in a nursery so I can have a 'stress free pregnancy' and due to several recent events at work I'm inclined to agree. But I can't quit until I've told people I'm pregnant otherwise they'll ask questions.
My fiance thinks we should tell our parents first then he'll tell his brother and I'll tell my SIL but I think we should tell them together and even then, I still don't know what to actually say.
I feel like this should be one of the happiest times of my life and instead I feel nothing but guilt
Any suggestions greatly appreciated
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SammyOnHorseback · 11/11/2012 23:33
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