I am 23 weeks pregnant after me and my partner have tried for a long time, which is great. He is in most way a perfect guy, he looks after me and we have been together for 12 years and I feel I know him pretty well..However, we both used to be quite keen on a good party and perhaps both of us liked a drink a tad too much, I have over the last three years of trying for a baby cut down on my alcohol consumption massively and now not drinking at all. He likes going to the pub for a couple of pints, and even though it doesent happen every day he drinks something most days. But about twice a month or so he goes out in London with his friends and not only have I started to not trust him when he is out and i have to say that I have gone through his phone a few times finding him making arrangements with girls that he knows, but he knows i think they are a bit of silly slappers, gold diggers and never have bothered to get a proper job and he ends up paying for most of their drinks.. and he lies about seeing them, i.e wont tell me they have been there.. I also have found text messages to other girls that I have confronted him with but he alwasy says it means nothing..anyway i am not jealous and not usually this distrusting, but over the last few years not only this have happened but when he comes home at about 4 in the morning he cannot seem to stop drinking he will continue on his own, last night he drank most part of a bottle of whiskey and watching porn on the internet until 10 in the morning. Two weekends ago we were both supposed to go out, but as I was getting ready I had a small bleed so I decided to to into A and E on my own and we spoke on the phone and I said i woudl appreciate if he would come home in a sensible time but he turns up at three am, and then proceeds to continue drinking yet another bottle of wine and then almost pass out, in the morning I had another small bleed and had to go into a and e on my own again, luckily there was no problem, but I am now starting to think that this is not really the kind of man I want in me and my babies life...I dont know about alcoholism, but surely there must be a problem when someone dont know how to stop drinking, and I find it really hard to talk to him about this, as he tedns to get really defensive and turn it around so that is seems like I am the one with a problem, and he is just having a bit of fun with his friends and I should not be controlling, but my father was an alcoholic and I really do not want my baby ever to see his father in that state.
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